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A Bob Health Update

18 years ago

I swear I should create a newsletter so I can send mass mailings out to all of Bob's friends and family. Do you ever find, when your loved one is in the hospital, that you forget who you told and who you didn't? I find that I repeat the same thing to a few people and then totally forget to let others know! Thank goodness so many of his friends and family members have email so I can send out a mass email announcement. So without further ado, here it is...

For those of you who haven't been able to keep track of Bob's (my BF and love of my life) health dilemmas, here is the cliff notes version:

June 13th - He has double bypass surgery

July 1st - He has colon cancer surgery

July 7th - He comes home

July 23rd - He is having problems breathing and feels light headed so we go to the ER. They say he is dehydrated and pump him full of fluids and send him home.

August 7th - We go back to the ER where they diagnose him with empyema - a nasty lung infection.

August 8th - He has another surgery to drain the fluid from his lungs.

August 17th - The infection spread to his abdomen and they do surgery to drain that too.

August 29th - He finally comes home.

He isn't doing very well. He still has pain in his abdomen. No one can say why. He is very weak and can barely walk. I have no idea how he is going to fix himself something to eat when I go to work on Tuesday. The pain meds make his brain muddled so he can't think clearly. I have the uncanny feeling I will be returning him to the ER soon.

Then I found out this past week that I will have to have surgery on my breast because there is something in there that may be cancerous. That news made the awful infection in the other breast seem so insignificant. To be honest, I wish they would cut both of this big melons off! lol They have been a nuisance for most of my life.

I apologize for all the horrible news I seem to share with everyone. Hopefully there will be something good I can report sometime soon.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the well wishes and prayers for Bob! I appreciate it more than I can ever express. Please keep those prayers coming that he will fully recover and be his old self once again.

Kathy

Comments (13)

  • 18 years ago

    Kathy....damn if I know what to say at this point. You and Bob just keep getting slammed down it seems. While you're at work, can you fix a cooler with some food/drinks to put by his bed or chair. since he's so weak and on those pain meds? I hope another ER trip isn't necessary.
    And now your own news of surgery on top of all else. My heart just breaks for you both.

    Holding you close in heart and thoughts,
    Karen

  • 18 years ago

    Makes my anger at my husbands employer seem little. He's stuck in a parish in LA that is in the direct line of Gustav. Gosh, I just am flabergasted at what you and your BF are going through. And you seem so cheerful. What an extraordinary woman you are. Sending prayers your way for better health and happier times.
    Kathy

  • 18 years ago

    Tears are brimming my eyes for you dear person!!! Sounds like Bob needs home care while you are away at work is there no one, family or friends, that can stay with him during the day!! I know you will be soo worried. Please know that you are both in my prayers.

    I pray for God to give the doctors wisdom to help you make the right choices.Please take care of yourself and check in when you can. I wish we all lived closer together to help each other out in times like these.
    ((((((((((Kathy and Bob)))))))))))
    Brenda

  • 18 years ago

    luna - Will continue to keep good thoughts and prayers coming to you and Bob. Good luck with your surgery and please keep us updated...we are here for you both and can keep sending good thoughts your way. Yes, thank goodness, for this world of technology...e-mail is a Godsend!

    Does your county have any "visiting nurses?" We have them here in Iowa and a nurse or caregiver will stop in once a day for just a short time to check up on a person. They are certainly a blessing!

    Take good care of yourself...because you must be in the best shape possible to help Bob with his healing. Jeanne S.

  • 18 years ago

    I am so glad that you updated. I am still saying prayers out here for both You and Bob. ((((hugs))))

  • 18 years ago

    Geez I am so sorry to hear of all this going on in your life. I just hope things will work out soon for you and Bob. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

  • 18 years ago

    So sorry to hear things arn't going so well. Could you ask a neighbor to check up on him or if you call & can't get him maybe as neighbor to be backup if needed. Lunch in a cooler is good idea & some drinks & fruit. Hope your surgery goes well, lot of times they worry you & it turns out to be nothing. Hopefully you will both be doing better soon. Prayers & Get Well Wishes for both of you ,Jan

  • 18 years ago

    Honestly, Kathy...I'm beside myself over all this! You two have had such a terrible time of it for such a long time now.

    You have managed to keep such a great attitude in spite of all the downfalls. You're quite amazing!

    Like Brenda said...it's too bad we don't live closer together, so we could help out during times like this. At least we provide emotional help for one another via these posts. They mean so much to each and every one of us who at one time or another feels as if we are at the end of our rope.

    I read or heard something the other day about doctors having their patients chew gum to help with the pain after abdominal surgery. Something new they've discovered...but I don't know much about it. You might check into it.

    I like Karen's suggestion of putting food and beverages in a cooler for Bob to keep near him while you're at work. That would make it easier for Bob and relieve your mind.

    When is your surgery? God bless you! Please remember...God never gives us more than He knows we can handle. Keep the faith!

    My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

    ~Sandy~

  • 18 years ago

    Kathy, use2becapecodr said it all for me, too. I can't believe you guys have had such a hard time of it all lately. It just doesn't seem fair at all. Wish we could be there with you both for any comfort and support, but I know that our prayers would reach you anywhere that you are. Karen had a genious idea of the cooler by the bed. Please keep us informed and darling, God Bless you and remember we love you guys. Remember your name, theres gonna be a "Happy Full Moon" somewhere in your future, girl, don't ever give up, just give it to God!

    blessings-sherri

  • 18 years ago

    Thanks for the update on Bob.
    Sorry for the problems tha you are having at
    the same time....Sometimes is seems that when it rains
    it pours..
    I also had a lump in my breast when Bill was so sick
    but it turned out just to be that--a lump....
    Hope that is the case with you!

  • 18 years ago

    Thank you all for the prayers! I told someone at work that I have so many people praying for Bob that I'm hoping God will get so sick of hearing them that he will help Bob recover that much faster! lol!

    He seems to be doing a little better. I took him to his regular doctor on Thursday. They took some blood tests and a chest x-ray (he is still complaining of pain below his ribs). We will have to wait and see what the doctor finds.

    I saw the surgeon yesterday about my boob. He scheduled surgery for the 15th. It will be an outpatient type of thing and I won't have to even spend a night in the hospital. This should be interesting ... he said they have to cut by the nipple, flip the skin up and remove the bad duct ... all this without putting me under? And I thought the fish hook in the nipple (galactogram) was uncomfortable!

    I will continue to keep everyone posted on Bob's progress. Thanks again for all the prayers and well wishes! I love you guys!

  • 18 years ago

    Luna, They will give you a local all you will feel is pulling. It's not so bad. I went home & vaccumed with the other hand. Glad Bob is doing some better. He has been through so much takes a while to get back to normal. Don't think I've heard of so many surgeries so close before so his poor body is wondering "What's going on!!" Hopefully after the 15th things will really get better rapidly. It's the waiting that's hard. Both of you get well soon & continued prayers for you both! Jan

  • 18 years ago

    Thanks, Jan, for the info! The surgeon seemed so nonchalant about it. I've had some weird procedures done so this won't be anything new.

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