it always seems to get that way late during the winter .. when we spend too many hours inside rather than rolling around in the hosta bed ....

all of a sudden the garden flushes out.. we turn off the computer.. and get fresh air, and a new perspective on life ...

what bugs me is when some peeps start sneaking links into the posts .... i dont do this to sponsor your [them not you] business .... its against the rules ...

anyway ... don't let it bug you ... the written word can so easily be misconstrued by a casual observer.. who doesn't really know who are friends behind the scenes .. a bad comment might just be an inside joke .... or a bad choice of words ...

frankly . this is one of the better forums i have run across regarding such

ken

It happens and it's not always in winter. The forum people monitor the site and posts have been removed and in some cases people have been banned. Some of them come back under a different name. Don't let it bother you unless it's directed at you and then you could report it.

Teresa

Vicky,
you will not find anyone on this forum who will say things to hurt feelings. Most of us have known each other for a number of years, and it becomes unneccesary to put LOL and the end of each sentence, just so people know you joking.
Everyone here knows that Ken Adrian for example is trying to be a comedian, but every now an then he comes up with to good advice. Teresa was a real stickler in the beginning (when each had only 2 hostas), but she has mellowed over the years. When someone has a real question, she will see to it, to find an answer. Over the years a few people showed up here, that just did not fit in, or did not follow simple rules of etiquet and they were "let go". I don't like Teresas term of "have been banned". Sounds much to harsh.
Not everyone takes to this forum like a scientist. Lets not forget the social function of it. Quite of few of us have met at various events, conferences, garden shows, or just privately.
All in all, just a bunch of good people.
Manfred

Now I understand Ken......he is trying to be funny.LOL :-)
I really enjoy this group of people.I don't post alot, but I read all of the posts.I have learned alot, and love seeing everyones pictures.
Thanks everyone.

'trying' to be a comedian .... ????

now my feelings are hurt .... waaaa ... NOT REALLY ...

my bottom line.. if its about hosta .. or whatever topic.. and the writer sticks to the topic .... there really shouldnt be any problems ...

attack the writer or his heritage or family ... then just maybe it has gone a bit too far .... but i dont really see a problem with that here 99.9% of the time ... and the rest of the time [the 0.1 % of the time] i usually write it off to the responder choosing a bad phrase or just having a bad day .... both causing an unintended impression ....

anyway .. i am funny ... more so in person than in the typed word ....

ken

"anyway .. i am funny ... more so in person than in the typed word"
sure ken you keep telling everyone that

The typed word is so limiting at times ! If it were in person we would be able to explain our reasons for saying what we do immediately not hours apart when we find time to recheck our posts or the threads.

We need to "lighten up" and not think we are being physically attacked for our posts.
New people are sometimes intimated by the more knowledgeable people who post here on the forum.

Stop and think? where are the real hosta people? They are in the labritories and nurseries getting all those new varieties of hosta out to us amateurs to plant and enjoy, not here on the forum!!!!

Isn't there a saying that a little knowledge can be a dangerous thing ? I fall in that category!!!

Connie

To realize how friendly this forum is, spend some time on the compost forum. There is a poster there who is very knowledgeable but seems to express him (her?) self in a sarcastic, confrontational way. We just take the good stuff he says and forget the rest, or come to the defense of whomever he is attacking.

That person posts here too jannoel.

roflol...to know him is to love him

Erm, but ademink is not talking about me. 'Cause last time I checked, I wasn't a "him."

;-)

Terri (whose choice of nicknames gives her trouble now and then)

hehe...nope, not you!

var wi,
Greetings from Sturtevant, WI, way down in the S.E. corner of the state. You're obviously far north of me. If you're still checking in on the responses to this thread, I just wanted to add my two cents. I too, am more of a lurker, only posting once in a while. But I try to read this forumn daily, or every other day. Believe me, this is one of the "milder" forums as far as sarcastic and mean spirited remarks go. The regulars here seem to have a whole lot of fun, and give great advice too.

There is quite a debate going on over at the daylily forum right now, so much so, that I had to turn away, it was ruining my day.

To all you regulars here:
Thanks for making my day more uplifting!

Julie

Take the best - ignore the rest.

I'm not a regular poster either but I do enjoy reading the posts and find that the majority of people here are very friendly, helpful and even sometimes funny.

Hosta is the Friendship Plant.

June

Amen - to everyone's comment re this forum compared to many others. I have learned to stay out of the compost forum. And I was going to come to your defense, Ken, but you did it yourself (Ken did miss his 'calling'). After only a couple of years in here this gang is my only social network and I'd give anything to get them all in one room (like a Hostatality Suite at a convention) sometime. One of these days . . .

Westy

Sorry - I think var_wi should go pound sand. I really dislike trolls that pop into a forum just to stir up trouble and hard feelings then leave.

We do all get along quite well here and if she thinks we are too harsh, then maybe she needs a dose of reality. As mentioned above, go check out the C, S & M Forum or the DL forum or head over to That Home Site and read the Laundry Forum.

Besides, since she hasn't posted since her initial "holier than thou" comments, I would doubt she is still here. If she is lurking, then I would advise her to get a grip. No one asked for her to pass judgement on what goes on here. If someone crosses the line, more often than not there are a lot of comments letting that person know they have offended.

Nope, I would not offer an apology....

Alexa

Not good to lump us all together; this is a great, fun group. I LOVE this forum!

I really think what var_wi is talking about is NOT directed at 99% of us. There's just one poster who, IMO, IS "sarcastic and sometimes mean spirted". At least, that is how that person comes off via the written word as expressed on this forum. Might be a perfectly lovely individual in person...I don't know. Certainly has rubbed me the wrong way a few times!

Char

I am shocked at how many people posted here

WOW! You are all too politically correct IMHO! I'm with Alexa, how dare someone criticize our friendships here, because that's what they are. I haven't met anyone face to face yet, but I hold everyone here with highest regards. Its been a super place, even with my mom's last bout with cancer, those I know best have been very kind and caring. I so appreciate that and all of our quirky posts.

One more thing, doesn't this belong on the conversation side? This is definitely OT. Perhaps we can port this over there so as not to cloud the wonderful world of hostas?

Donna

You haven't seen mean until you see Vermicomposting at the Garden Forums. Yikes! I'm so sick of it, I don't read half the posts when I do get on the forum, especially if a particular poster has posted a message. Why can't people just get along?? Agree to disagree and be adults! (Sorry - I'm getting on my soap box in the wrong forum.)

Deanna

I thought Alexa was kidding about the strong minded people at the Laundry Forum.....apparently there is such a thing and she sent me the link this morning. When I finally stopped laughing I went to check it out. Who would have thought......there were 5 threads on ASKO washers & dryers alone! (literally ASKO parts 1-5) Parts 4 and 5 had 123 and 142 posts respectively - seriously. I sure parts 1,2, & 3 were up there also. And yes - people have REALLY strong opinions about brands, top loading, front loading, how to clean a dryer vent and how to distress a brightly colored polyester speedo.

Okay - so I'm off topic - but this post isn't on the convo side. I'm sure I'll get blasted by someone but I just had to share something that really tickled my funny bone! So if you need a good laugh ............ this site makes the hosta forum members look like a bunch of girlscouts!

Here is a link that might be useful: The Laundry Room

LMAO...WOW. Is that crazy, or what? If you dare to wear a Speedo, you *belong* on that forum, IMHO. hahahaha Sorry to all of you Speedo lovers out there. All I can think of is "Meet the Parents".

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!

And you thought I was jesting! LOLOLOL!

Yep - that is one of the most volatile forums I have ever encountered.

And if you really want a thrill... check out the threads on which detergent and/or additives to use.... they just about come to blows over THAT topic!!!!

Glad I made you LOL this AM T.... we all need a little levity in our lives.....

Alexa

The "Laundry Room" - great title, however the participants of this forum take it too literally. Interesting subject lines - lol -I wonder what they would think if they read the Hosta subject lines....