You could use a washable flat, but those still have some slight sheen and even the slightest sheen will be visible on a ceiling. All flat paints will burnish some when you wash them. Flat paints are really meant to not be touched at all.

So what do most people use on kitchen ceilings? Flat/ceiling paint or something washable?

So what do most people use on kitchen ceilings? Flat/ceiling paint or something washable?

I used BM Aura flat on my kitchen ceiling 4 years ago, and I washed it twice since. It has a slight sheen to it, but not enough to bother me.

Most people use a dead flat. It depends on how low the ceiling is though. Really, for a normal kitchen it isn't like you get enough grease and stuff up on your ceiling for it to require washing.

I used eggshell on my kitchen ceiling and walls.
It's not really shiny, but washable. The surface has to be really perfect; the shinier the paint is, the more defects show through.
Casey

First, some education

Ceiling paint - Paint meant for ceilings, it's usually very flat and covers up any issues in the ceiling texture

Kitchen paint - Paint that is resistant to the kind of moisture that you get in the kitchen. It stops things like mold and mildew

Bathroom paint - Can be used in the kitchen if need be

If you used ceiling paint in your kitchen, you should cover it with paint meant for a kitchen.

http://www.benjaminmoore.com/en-ca/for-your-home/paint-products/benjamin-moore-collection-kitchen-and-bath-paint#advs=0amp;tab=2

or this if you want matte

http://www.benjaminmoore.com/en-ca/for-your-home/paint-products/aura-bath-and-spa-waterborne-interior-paint?lang=en_CA&role=H#advs=0amp;tab=2

No. I have never heard of new paint coming off like chalk, any flat paint when really scrubbed will come off. If you were not really scrubbing, then it could be the paint or it could be that the ceiling was not properly prepped and you will need to find the problem and fix it before adding any more paint.
As to shiny or ceiling paint, if the stove is properly ventilated (no grease floating up to ceiling), you can do either.

Agree with paintguy ... if you like the look of flat paint, there is nothing wrong with using it on the ceiling in your kitchen. But while it's unlikely that anything will end up on the ceiling, it's not impossible. I had a blender mishap that resulted in a sweet potato concoction on the ceiling that wasn't noticed until a few days later. I used BM Aura flat paint on the ceiling and it washed right off.