What look are you trying to achieve? A stained look? Patina? Antiqued? Give me more information and I will guide you through it.

I want to change the color but i can't paint them. I want a sort of antiqued look. I think totally staining them would be great but a lot of work. My husband says that I have to do it myself because he thinks they're fine, and he's also laying hardwood floors & doesn't want to take the time or energy. I guess more of a Patina look. I want the glaze to be darker in the cracks and corners, but I also want it to change the color. I've heard that if you use glaze as a stain it ends up cloudy. Help...I'm all ears!!

They sell glaze at the store. Look at the directions on the can. The HD advice sounds stupid.
Ron

If you have a used building materials place near your home, go buy a cabinet door that is close to yours and test it. Its a cheap and risk-free way to see if you want to go that route.

We have both stained and painted cabinets (my DW does the painting), and I like the color.

Here is a link that might be useful: Building Cabinets