Describe the rest of your kitchen...floor, ceiling, number and size of windows, adjacent spaces, metal surfaces, lighting, ceiling ht, other appliances, etc. etc. etc.

What other textures, colors, features are a part of the design?

What is yet to be installed or changed?

What was your motive for choosing a white cupboards and white countertops?

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Your friend's kitchen might have different lighting or exposure. Depending on the lighting, some whites look cooler or warmer.

My kitchen is mostly northern facing, so I'm going with a slightly yellowed white to counteract the coolness of the lights. I also have flourescents that read very cool too. I have a yellow stove too, although it's more of a pale lemon meringue color.

When you bring in the other elements (flooring, counters, paint) facing the strongest daylight, how does it look then? Are the cabs painted wood or thermofoil? At the very worst, you could have them repainted if you really hate it...

Take pictures and post...

Pictures!

Experiment with different light bulbs. My cream cabs were too yellowy but I got bluer bulbs and that helped. Maybe you need to go more yellow in the light dept.

Also, when the counters get installed, they will stop the light from filtering through the tops of the cabinets which should help. Another thing to consider, is the power of your paint color. If you go with a muted shade, your white will look less bright. If you choose a dark wall color, it will play up the contrast and make the white appear brighter white.
Everything will look kind of weird and not as you expected until other elements are installed. At least, that was my experience. It took me 3 days of staring at each new thing before I could begin to like it. It's installation anxiety! Try not to worry and like others suggested, more details will help us all to come up with ideas.

White cabinets with white counters can be a bit much, but if everything else is NOT white, you should be okay. Just make sure your cabinets and counters look good together and one white, doesn't make the other white look dirty.

Your yellow stove sounds like fun! I hope you post pics :)

Remember, backsplashes can be colorful, too.

The same thing happened to me. I chose the white that was in the showroom. Turns out it is BM Dove White the most popular. It looked stark in my kitchen! I have lots of natural light and the showroom didn't. What a difference. We changed the light bulbs, and when the counter and backsplash were installed things looked less stark. I still find though that if I have only one set of lights on, I don't like the way it looks. But for the most part I am happy with it.