HI -- Your having trouble picking a color because you have poor lighting. Change the lighting first to a L.E.D. fixture and then you will see the true colors . Florescent lighting is terrible to see colors with and is making the colors and the cabinets look and feel drab . Also add under cabinet lights for task lighting for your counters . You get a pure clean light in there and everything will look better . Then see what all those colors look like .

You have a beautiful kitchen. Choose a color other than gray. Something more bluish would be nice. Gray will make your kitchen gloomy.

HI -- Yes , it would be wise to wait and choose the paint color last . This way you won't make a mistake . This is what designers do.