Do you want to know how to tone down the orange oak thorough accents, wall color, or actually painting the orange oak?

Through accents, wall color, rug (??), etc.

The microwave hood is also too low. If you paint or change any cabinetry make sure to raise the microwave between 3 and 6 inches.

It will help some ... Really there's no accent colors ? Just a shite with orange and stainless Steel (grey) use the opposite tones in greens to cool that orange with a rug that has those tones a mix of ... Otherwise like now you have very sharp contrasts .
Why not paint the cabinets ?! It's a nice room just very orange . A professional color consultant like Maria Killam could help you she is a
Designer/ color consultant check her work out On house and website , FB she could help you ! It would be with her fees ... Most people struggle to get colors right there are so many undertones ...lighting to consider on and on ! Good luck ! It's a nice room
But there IS a lot of orange oak !

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I'm not a designer so take my opinion as such. If I could not change the counters or cabinets for now, I would paint the dining table and chairs a light color. My best to you.

Maybe also consider a more substantial casing above entry to kitchen since you are painting all trim BM white dove? Similar to example photo.

Hi Flo...love learning fro you!!!!

Flo - would adding casing above entry to kitchen be a good or not so good idea since OP is painting all trim? Would it make any difference?

I agree with Flo, light sage green and IGNORE! Eye on the prize in a few years when you can remodel!!!

Can you change the chairs at the dining room table to add visual interest, reduce overall "too much wood" and less matchy-matchy.
I would add a moderate size persian or similar carpet to the kitchen eg to stand on near the sink or break up the oak floor, pull in some of the living room/ kitchen paint colors.
Place a couple colourful items out so overall effect is less bland.
Hope that helps a bit?

Place an indoor/outdoor below table and replace table and chairs if you can. That plus paint will transform. When you renovate, consider restraining the cabinets if wood. You can select among a wide range of stains. I am not a "sage" person and think a nice white would brighten it up. But changing dinette set and placing rug would be biggest impact. Painting cabinets is great idea but, unless you are willing to repaint within a year or two, you will need to shop paint, which will cost a lot.

Painting the trim will help. The gray will work except if it is in a room with warm wood tones. Honestly - the wood is pretty, but HGTV has some thinking it is not. Most white trim in new homes is MDF painted white - not as valuable as wood. I did paint mine so I understand, but mine was cheap pine stained dark.

Gray is part of the white or dark cabinet color scheme - hard to make it work with warm tones of wood - often looks drab. Creams work well and light blues and sage type greens if you like color. You might get a way with a gray based blue if you really want gray. Think about the climate where you live too. My area is about to embark on several months of colder short gray days. Gray doesn't last long in decor around here.

I suggest thinking about incorporating some of the wood in your home otherwise you are in for a whole house makeover. For example, if you have nice wood paneled doors don't paint them. Combine white with wood for the brightness of white with the warmth of wood. This would be a more timeless look.

The floors and cabinets are just screaming OAK... so I would stain the cabinets darker or paint them lighter... and get new counter tops as soon as you can.. otherwise, it is a nice small but functional kitchen.

I would totally try a sage green over Revere Pewter. It was complement the orange much better. Or if you really have your heart set on grey, chose one with a green undertone.

Here is a thought...what if I left the oak trim throughout the house, but replaced the kitchen cabinets, and then painted the wood work as we could afford to do so? We can't afford to do all of it at once. Which do you think would be the better choice?

replacing kitchen cabinets means also replacing countertops and sink, PLUS you'll probably want to take down the soffits, add lighting, get new appliances, run more electricity, etc etc etc, adding to thousands. Are you ready to do that now? Kitchens cost bundles of dollars!

We painted the trim, window and door casings in our honey oak abode and it made a world of difference, and it was less expensive than taking out cabinets.