I'm not that far behind you in age, and I , too, feel myself slowing down a little more each year.

As far as knowing when to let go, that's not a thing any of us can tell you. I will tell you what I did.

I sat down and wrote out a pro/con list...the good and bad of staying. Then I went back and looked at each item and tried to find a solution, or a compromise. At the end of the day, for me...I decided to stay. I have decided to let go of projects and ideas that I'm just not going to be able to get done, and to hire out what I can't do anymore..that leaves me time to enjoy this place. I knew right from the start that if I can't sit down at some part of every day and just be happy here, then there was no sense in being here. I had to prioritize what was most important to me, and what I could let go of. My daughter will probably never live here, but it doesn't matter..when I'm gone, it will be up to her to sell it or not...either way I'm fine with it...what matters is the quality of my life today..she..(and your sons) will have to sit down someday and decide what will make them happy..and they will when the time comes...right now...enjoy your life...if you sell or keep it..life is short.

Donna R I am sorry but I wasn't getting any responses after my post so I haven't looked back here for a while. In my head I know no one can tell me when. You are very kind in sharing your thoughts, what you have done and how you look to the future. Thank you kindly.

Drake, hope you don't mind another perspective. I am 81 and have been in your shoes. As Donna said, I will only tell you what I did. I spent over 20 years moving with a military husband, so it was probably easier for me to let go. Also, it depends on whether your memories are all good or maybe not so good. I ended up with the old family farm simply by way of survival. My mother wanted it to go to her grandsons (2) at some point. She just could not understand that they had no interest because neither had ever lived there, and both were many years from retirement, so I chose to sell it and divide the money. I did stay in my own house (80 miles away) until I could no longer feel safe in an isolated area after the loss of my husband. Again, I sold and moved near my son and granddaughter. I didn't feel like they should have to travel to where I was if I got myself into trouble. I had fallen 6 times that last year. Learned the hard way, from my husband, that it's best to get moved or you will find that it is no longer possible due to health issues.

My perspective may be quite different because the realities of life can smack you in the face when your husband has to make out his Last Will and Testament while in his late thirties due to orders to a combat zone.

Guess the point is, one size doesn't fit all. Take care and let's hope you don't make a decision that you will regret later. Millie