What about a greige color to bridge the gap between the warm cabinets and the white and gray counter.

This is an Allen and Roth tile from Lowes in the color Pearl

Shane Edwards, I have read quite a few similar posts. It doesn't seem to be that easy to find the right combination. My only thoughts are this; when you stand back, do you want the backsplash to jump out at you and have a prominent look, or do you want it to "whisper" and fade into the background. Best of luck. Can't wait to see what you come up with.

The lighter one but I think it should be even lighter.

I vote for the lighter one as well:)

thank you. I'll hopefully have finished pics. Next week:)