Not all recliners are big and bulky, but that's not what you're asking. If this is for a primary space where you both spend a lot of time relaxing, then look for chairs that would work with an ottoman ( multi-functional piece that can also be "pretty"). He can still put his feet up. Shop together and "try on" chairs that appeal to you and test if they're comfortable. Alternatively, if he's set on a recliner, find a way to work it into your scheme. It's a compromise, but sometimes its the only solution.