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8 years ago

Sorry I have not been here in a while. On January 23, my 44 year old son, who has a twin sister, died suddenly of a pulmonary embolism/ cardiac arrest. As you can imagine, my heart and brain have been totally out of sync. Yesterday and today, with this gorgeous weather, I did get outside for a couple of hours each day. I worked mostly in the beds with my iron plants...aspidistra..... getting the leaves out of the centers, and clipping the dead leaves. Some of my plants are 6 feet around! I started with one measly plant 20 years ago and now have them in almost all of my beds....they look beautiful under my crepe's. These beds were all initially made for me by Jason, which was hard but good at the same time. Question: for my 'bunny grass', do I need to cut it back? Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.....margeetx

Comments (13)

  • 8 years ago

    Oh Margee, I am so sorry--how awful! My prayers go out to you & your family.

    I'm glad you're finding therapy in your garden. I have been thinking of you, enjoying your roses & planning to bring you some in return this spring. I hope you will decide to come. It's hard to take interest in anything with such grief, but there is something comforting in the beauty of the garden, especially as we are starting spring. I hope you can heal as you work in the beds Jason established & continue on in the love of plants he must have had. I'm glad you had each other & shared that love.


  • 8 years ago

    Blue- when is the swap here in the DFW area!

  • 8 years ago

    Oh gosh, I don't know--I was thinking of the SA swap. I will be happy to ship you some rose babies when it's good for you. I have Homere, several others rooted. Let me know!

  • 8 years ago
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    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Prayers and all good wishes are going out to you and your family. Yes, what wonderful therapy it is to garden. I have a little sign in my garden, "For every flower that blooms in your garden a wound is healed in your heart".

    You can cut back the bunny grass about now and it will be up blooming again soon, with many, many healing blossoms.

  • 8 years ago

    Oh Margeetx, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved son. Garden work is soothing, especially the gardens that he helped you with.


    Sylvia hosts the Fort Worth plant swap, I haven't seen an announcement about the date yet.

  • 8 years ago

    so sorry for your loss dh is subject to pe and i feel so lucky to still have him i am praying for you and yours as pk says, garden work is soothing...

  • 8 years ago

    I am so sorry! I will check with the parks department on Monday to see what events are scheduled on the weekends in April.

  • 8 years ago

    Margee, my sympathies for your huge loss. I survived PE's and I didn't know until later how bad they could be. I'm so sorry. It's lovely that you are contemplating attending a swap. I think it would be a wonderful idea for you. I remember when my father died, I went to a planned plant swap just 3 days after his funeral. I just felt the NEED to be in a normal place where I was comfortable, and it brought me some peace. Being in the garden after a traumatic event is always soothing for me.

  • 8 years ago

    Very sorry to hear this. I hope you continue to find comfort in your garden, your memories, and your family and friends.

  • 8 years ago

    What a loss to bear. I can't imagine the weight on you day. I hope you find some peace in your weeding, if only the weather would let up.

  • 8 years ago

    Margee, so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family. I'm glad gardening is helping at such a difficult time. Is there anything in particular you are wanting to add to your garden?

  • 8 years ago

    Thank you, everyone, for your kind thoughts and prayers. And these successive days of rain, after the beautiful weather we had last week has only added to my gloom. I want to add some small grasses, some more perennials, and not sure what else at this point. Jason and I had planned on enlarging my back bed. In od


  • 8 years ago

    Sorry Ipad locked up on me. In order to keep our three dogs from attempting to get to the back neighbors 3 dogs, I had to add additional protection to our back fence, which really cut into my bed area back there. AnYway, I do ALOT of container gardening,but will be adding to the beds some this year. I am going to really make an effort to get to the swap here. Right now, I am doing good to just shower everyday and really don't want to be anywhere around the human race. But, as they say, this too shall pass,but right now I don't believe it. Margee





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