***The upper cabinets not in picture are cathedral style

You're not giving us much of a sense of what you have to work with, nor of what kind of advice you want, nor of what constraints you have in terms of budget or energies. Oak cabinets can be fine, or you could get all new doors, or just new uppers, or upper doors and paint the upppers, or add a counter in a lighter more modern look, or . . . How can we begin to guess!

yes, we do need real pictures of the whole kitchen. but when you dont care for something, the choices are 1. remove it 2. change it 3. disguise it 4 distract from it.

1. if there are a lot of cabinets, perhaps you can remove some uppers. its a trend not to have cabinets encroaching on the kitchen window, for example. 2. you can change a few cathedral doors to clear glass 3. nope you cant disguise cathedral doors. no matter what color you paint those babies, the cathedral arch will shine through 4. yes indeed when there are other INTERESTING things in the room, the few cathedral doors you have left will be much less important.

showing us your current backsplash/counter combination will give us more to work with.

Are you putting in a new floor? If so, why? Have you chosen the new flooring yet? Would you consider new countertops? Or is this a rental and you aren't making permanent changes, and that's why you are looking for help with rugs and lighting and accessories? This is cross-posted in Appliances; are you buying all new appliances?

Thanks for the comments everyone. I need to stop over and get better pics. Were moving into the house but aren't going to do anything to the cabinets so I'm really looking for accessory suggestions on how to distract and have a more updated feel. We are changing the counter tops but they not in. Were going with a lighter cream or white granite with darker veins. The floor is a very light tan. Basically I'm imagining my kitchen will look like a traditional kitchen ppl usually do in a flip home. I don't want that but can't really change anything aside from accessories and other furniture that might give the room a more updated feel. As mentioned the walls are Parisian taupe. I feel like it's going to just be too yellow/tan feeling in the end. What kind of light fixtures, kitchen tables, colors, rugs, etc would help update honey oak cathedral cabinets with a lighter granite counter top and light tiled floor with Parisian taupe walls for example I found these ideas on Pinterest.

Also I don't typically post on here so I'm learning! A note to why I tagged this post in appliances is because I was reading that buying appliances can add to the feel and style of the kitchen. I saw a pin on Pinterest where honey oak cabinets were paired with lighter cabinets and a lot of copper appliances and decor. Looking for more ideas and suggestions like this.

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I have honey oak cabinets with cathedral arch that I do not love, but plan to keep around until we can afford to gut the kitchen. I put up a faux marble backsplash (contact paper I got from Amazon), painted Sea Salt, and got a vintagey style rug from Target. Oh, I also changed the hardware to more modern pulls.