My thoughts are: you have not provided photos: you do not share the orientation of the rooms; no mention of trim or ceiling paint.

Sorry about that. Attached are pictures of most of the first level. The dining room is sealed as that is one of the rooms were where the fire was. I am emulating some of the colors I liked of Sherwin Williams, but with Benjamin Moore colors. There is one color that I could not emulate. Sherwin Williams Sawdust. I love the color - it is an accent wall in family room (fireplace wall) and also in the foyer and I plan on using it again in the same places. I have included floor plan. Only big change is we added a sunroom out from the kitchen. The sunroom is currently painted Sherwin Williams Armagnac. When I picked these colors it took 3 years to pick them (with the help of a decorator). Due to the restoration from the fire I do not have that much time to pick colors. We will be painting the entire house (first and second floor).

I plan on doing Sherwin Williams Dried Thyme on an accent wall in the master bedroom and figured the remainder of second floor would be selected when I figure out the first floor. Color of two story foyer will flow up stairs and into the 2nd floor hallway.

Biggest challenge is the neutral color that needs to coordinate with BM Grappa and SW Sawdust. I do not want it to look yellow as SW blonde and restrained gold does) I am not set on Grappa, I just would like a deep dark purple for the kitchen.

I forgot to answer question on trim and ceiling. I do not know the actual color - I say it is builder white for trim and ceiling. We will also be replacing all of the carpet. I am a little overwhelmed as I do not see undertones or have an eye for design at all. Thank you for any input. It would be great to nail the neutral base that will go through much of the house and match it to whatever purple we choose in the kitchen and terra cotta color we choose in the sunroom. I did go to a paint store and Wilmington Tan was suggested. I do agree it goes with all of the colors, but I have this awful feeling it will look yellow. I previously painted a large sample of Wilmington Tan and have held it on my walls. To me it looks very similar to SW Restrained gold which looks yellowish to me.