Pale Oak can look pretty gray when comparing to true pinks and oranges. What color is the trim in the room? If it's a warmer trim color, it could make the Pale Oak look more gray. You could try a beige/off-white, such as BM Wind's Breath.

You might like Edgecomb Gray BM. I have it in master bedroom with one window facing North. I like how calm and nice it looks on walls. It looks beige for me. Try a sample.

Wind's Breath can be great in the right space/light. It's a nice neutral, warm-ish greige.

I might check out Benjamin Moore Ballet White, as well.

Just thought of BM Maritime White, too. To me it reads more 'cream' than Wind's Breath.