how do I pull this bedroom decor together?

December 1, 2019

I can't figure out what I need to do to pull my master bedroom decor together. I wanted to do it in white and cream with purple accents (with white sheets and bedskirt and a white nightstand), but my husband bought me a gray nightstand and now there's white, lots of gray, and cream in there plus the purple. I originally hung the white curtains that are on the window to the left of the bed, but I don't like the contrast between the off-white walls and the stark white curtains. I really like the cream ones that are above the bed, but I'm thinking white and cream and gray is a little much on the neutrals. I've tried two different gray curtains and didn't like the look of either (medium gray ones made the room look too dark, and very pale gray ones had the same contrast issues with the walls as the white ones). I tried ivory curtains thinking they would blend in with the walls, but it turns out the undertone on the walls is actually peach, not yellow. I tried lavender curtains but didn't like the look of those either (and my husband objected to them). I could replace the rocking chair cushions with gray ones, but that wouldn't help with the curtain color dilemma. I really like my comforter and don't want to replace it, so I'd like to work around it. The picture isn't the greatest but it's white with floral designs in two shades of gray and two shades of purple on it (and yes, my husband does his own thing for a comforter, we don't share, and they won't match because we have radically different tastes). Also, we're planning on putting a freestanding fireplace in the bedroom soon, probably either a gray or white one.

I know the bed would look better positioned differently, but my husband objects to moving it. He also objects to headboards, and floor-length curtains. I don't know if floor length curtains would work anyway because the heat vent is directly under the window on the left. I need curtains in addition to the blackout blinds we also have in there to truly blackout the room. Oh, and the carpet is blue with gray undertones.

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Beth H. :
V,,,a lot of us are older, married (or divorced, with good reason) women who have learned valuable lessons when we were younger. Time passes quickly and the one thing that can't be undone is regret. We just hate to see anyone in situations that they shouldn't be. I won't pretend to know yours, but a few of your comments are quite alarming. No one should be in a partnership where their ideas are repressed by a drill sergeant. It's not healthy for that person, or the little ones growing up and observing it. And don't tell me his opinions are only in regard to design ideas. I know better. (in my prior job I've been involved with every type of dynamic that you can imagine)

It would be helpful if you gave a little more info as to what ideas given are doable. A lot of people have posted many diff ideas, but you don't seem to comment on them.

Can you move the nightstand?

can you move the bed?

can you do some nice blinds instead of curtains?

can you paint the paneling?

(forget the electric fireplace idea if you have a baby sleeping in the closet)

Can you move the crib into your room?

Are there any other rooms that can be redone?
December 3, 2019last modified: December 3, 2019
Olychick
A fireplace would add ambience to a space where you like to hang out, can add some romance, etc. But if it's a space that the aesthetics frustrate you and he's thwarting every nice thing you try to do there, it's not going to become any better by adding a fireplace. Hopefully, he'll compromise on some things so it becomes a more desirable place for you to hang out, then think about a fireplace.
December 3, 2019
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JAN MOYER
Well. Say a prayer. because to at least a small degree, as the saying goes.... The Lord help those who help themselves. Pick your spirit and affiliation )

The op has suggestions of ALL types. Yes, you have to compromise in every type of relationship. . Just not this MUCH. At some point your own soul .......unravels. The great thing about Houzz? Nobody knows you , your age unless you tell. Life, resources, experiences are varied. Comments reflect that. Even if someone hits you on the head to take CARE of yourself. Yes, even then. And yes, she needs a dresser and night stands more than a fireplace.
December 3, 2019last modified: December 3, 2019
V Smith
We have 6 kids in a 4 bedroom house, one of which is being used as an office (I simply cannot keep the kids out of DH’s work stuff otherwise), so no, there’s no extra spaces. The walk-in is great for the baby actually...quietest spot in the whole main level. He sleeps better in his own space than in our room. And it‘s not small or stuffy (IMO)...it’s 9’x10’. I’d much rather have had an extra bedroom than a huge walk-in, but anyway. And we don't have dressers because there’s an entire wall of built-ins in the closet, so no need.

The fireplace is for warmth actually, because this bedroom is freezing cold in the winter. The heat is up plenty high but the furnace doesn’t quite reach the back of the house adequately, or something.

I can certainly move the nightstand, but I actually sleep with my head at the foot of the bed cuz DH has a CPAP and it’s loud, so I think I will whack my feet on the nightstand if it's in the traditional spot by the bed. I’ll give it a try.

We do have blackout blinds, but I’m pretty sensitive to light at night and it starts getting light at 4:30 am in the summer, so curtains are needed also to block the light that creeps around the edges of the blinds.

I’ll see if I can get the bed centered under the window. I found some Euro pillows on clearance at BB&B today...just need to find covers for them.

I would like to eventually remove or paint over the paneling, but that’s low on my list of things I want to get done with this house so it would be a while at best.
December 3, 2019
V Smith
Any suggestions on a more masculine, relatively inexpensive nightstand that would coordinate ok with the grey one?
December 3, 2019
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JAN MOYER
Yikes. Does this mean five kids are sharing two bedrooms? At some point six kids sharing those two? Nursing a tot doesn't last too long. Can hubby rent some small office space anywhere else?

Seems like this bedroom may be a temporary problem. Maybe more space is what you really need?
December 3, 2019last modified: December 3, 2019
njmomma
Not a Pro.

Let's make the bed first then start coordinating.

You found Euro pillows.....find covers you like and lets make that bed.

Move it into a position that works for you and you will know what size end table you will need.

If you need a nightstand that would coordinate with the grey one that is inexpensive...try finding one on Craigslist or a garage sale and paint it to match. Any style will do, as long as they are the same color. Even one from another room painted to match. Or you can paint them both another color.
December 3, 2019
One Devoted Dame
I also have 6 kids in a 3 bedroom house (with a Playroom off the Living room, so all of the toys live there instead of bedrooms), and my only girl is the only person in the house with her own room. lol It may not be everyone's cup of tea, but we manage pretty well, and everyone is happy. :-D

I totally agree with NJMomma. Let's tackle the bed first, getting those Euros in shams. After the Euro shams, find a few standard shams that coordinate, then an accent pillow (or three, lol). Which colors do y'all agree on? You mentioned that you dislike the hunter green; does he object to purple? There's obviously gray, too, and white from your comforter.

To warm things up a bit, (think accent pillows and/or one of the standard shams) do you have a preference between yellow and orange?

Obviously, florals are a keeper. Plaid, too, yes?
December 3, 2019last modified: December 3, 2019
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Beth H. :
I think the Euros are a good idea. If you can prop them up somehow, with a few other longer pillows, it will resemble a headboard.

see how they've done it here?

as for his nightstand, if you can reposition the bed, is there a spot on the wall, next to the bed, that you can possibly do a floating type of shelf/nightstand

you can buy one (Floating nightstand)

or, they are super easy to make: (you could paint it to match the other one if you like)

if he's willing to make a platform bed, you can have them built in. and you get the headboard which will not bang against the wall since those boards are attached to the wall.

(you could also hide the cpap in a built in spot along side)

as for the blinds, they make complete black-out blinds that won't need curtains because no light sneaks around the edges. (have you ever tried a sleep blindfold???)

these are Ikea, modern cellulars. see how there is no light sneaking through?

blinds.com will have them too.

you could even do a blackout roller blind behind the cellulars for extra black out

when it comes time for the kids rooms, there are plenty of options for multiple beds in one room.

Can husband do any DIY or build things?
December 3, 2019last modified: December 3, 2019
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Flo Mangan
Beth has given you many great ideas. Hope you can adopt them.
December 3, 2019
hollybar
OP, as you work at "combining" your styles, you could consider the two twin duvets on one bed approach like the Scandinavians. https://witandwhistle.com/2014/08/07/two-duvets-one-bed/ Usually when I've seen this the duvets are the same, but in your case some on purpose co-ordination could work. For example, you could have a floral cover and he has a solid shade that appears in the floral. Pillowcases and bottom sheet match. Could match one of the duvets. Minimal accents. Basically, a reduction in haphazard visual noise that should help the space.

Nightstand wise, same shade of paint makes a 'match" Or don't match as Ikea shows above:-) https://www.today.com/home/ikea-s-tog-ether-bundle-just-might-end-blanket-hogging-t121679
December 3, 2019last modified: December 3, 2019
One Devoted Dame
Do you like either/both of these (from BB&B)?

Euro Sham Purple/Gray

Euro Sham Gray Plaid

Solids are good, too... Especially if you want to mix up the Purple/White/Gray ("Savannah" from Pier1):
December 3, 2019
krottmann
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V Smith
Would white sheets and bedskirt look better than the dark gray ones with the comforters we have? He doesn’t want a platform bed either.
December 3, 2019
V Smith
I would probably choose a solid gray textured sham cover, maybe something like this in light or dark gray https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07T9BX44S/?coliid=IB2ZA2ZXM738J&colid=S2OEFL2MK81H&psc=1&ref_=lv_ov_lig_dp_it Idk how to just post a picture from a website.
December 3, 2019last modified: December 3, 2019
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Beth H. :
if you could find a bedskirt that matches the color/shade of the carpet, you could do that, and then do your white sheets.

I think just doing a stark white against that carpet, may be a little too white. here they put a jute rug in between.

if you did an all in one bed frame like this one ^, you'd have the headboard and no need for a bedskirt. just drop your mattress in the middle and throw on sheets/comforter
December 3, 2019last modified: December 3, 2019
DK Haas
I'm curious V,. How old is the baby? What is the heat source for the closet, where the infant sleeps? You said there is a fireplace in your room as it is so cold, but what about the baby? FYI infants are not able to shiver to retain body heat when they are cold, until at least six months of age- a developmemtal milestone necessary for cold stress survival. I pray your angel does not freeze to death
December 3, 2019last modified: December 3, 2019
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Beth H. :
DK, they haven't gotten the fireplace yet. (i'm guessing it will be an electric heat source.)

V----you said the heat source doesn't reach the back of the house? Have you had the HVAC ducting checked? perhaps the duct got closed off, or you need something with a little more power to push it? Or, have you checked your insulation for that back room?

the electric fireplace for heating will not be cheap to run. Why don't you call in a HVAC expert and see what's up w/the ducting? might save you on the heating bills.
December 3, 2019
V Smith
Don’t worry, my kids have all survived infancy ;). He’s 16 months and the closet is much warmer than the bedroom. It has its own heat vent.

Yes electric fireplace. It won’t be the primary heat source, just a little extra to warm up the room at bedtime and on super cold nights. There is some heat there, just not enough. The basement bedrooms in the same position are extra cold too and they are quite close to the furnace so idk what the deal is. I can mention checking it out to DH.
December 3, 2019
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December 4, 2019
salonva
I have just read this thread, and I think that the idea of using both your comforter over husband's blanket should work.

I have a somewhat similar situation where in the summer, because dh is always too warm and I am always cold, I make the bed normally but for sleeping, dh only uses the top sheet while I need both top sheet AND the lightweight summer quilt. That way we are each and both happy sleeping, and the room looks fine in the day time.

I think the Euro shams against the wall will go a long way. I use extra shams (not Euro) to "make the bed" which add a bit of luxe and color but at night, we only sleep with our regular pillows. You could do the same.

I definitely think long white or ivory curtains would look great.

Maybe I missed it, but do you have lamps or lighting or need that?

As an aside--My dh also has a CPAP and I find that it is silent. I guess they are all different, but when I do hear his running, it's usually because he doesn't have the mask seated properly.
December 4, 2019
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JAN MOYER
You can get LOW profile box prings for next to nothing. Probably a 100 bucks max Get rid of the nine inch box springs. ......since he doesn't LIKE a platform bed, though I doubt he knows what that is.

Cover the new box springs with an ivory , ironed FITTED SHEET. A cheap one.

GET a bed wedge, 71 inches long. It will be enough to act as a headboard. Moosh and hide the sleep pillows behind it!.

GET an ivory quilt coverlet........49.00 at Stein Mart. HIDE THE DARN GREEN AND THE MISMATCH. COVERS

Get a good set of ivory sheets. Spend enough for smooth comfort. Winter? Get PINZON ivory flannel. They are the best and at 71 bucks do it today and warm UP

I didn't add...........but one entirely brand new room for about 900 bucks. Warm and toasty too.

https://www.steinmart.com/product/rice+stitch+stonewashed+luxury+quilt+68093335.do?pup_e=1&pup_cid=137610&pup_id=68093699&kid=58c5ae73-dfe4-4b06-bf35-44c6cd33840e&utm_medium=&utm_term=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=&camp=ppc:google:TZ|PLA|Bed&Bath:Non-Brand:Bedding|Quilts:all\bed&bath\bedding\quilts\solid&crtp=paidsearch&gclid=Cj0KCQiAz53vBRCpARIsAPPsz8XSNRmLqJ8oSCgvRyXKIVC1VrJgqcrsND6Wg4r-uUJVNNrq7RykkBIaAlbYEALw_wcB

https://www.amazon.com/Pinzon-Signature-Cotton-Heavyweight-Flannel/dp/B000FVW5Z2/ref=asc_df_B000FVW5Z2/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=172265922715&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3967103465406805057&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9005674&hvtargid=aud-801381245258:pla-474472556352&psc=1

Toss a throw at the foot of the bed...........check your local discount stores, they abound!

GET TWO NIGHTSTANDS, Two for 200 bucks

https://www.wayfair.com/furniture/pdp/corrigan-studio-brantner-3-drawer-nightstand-w001740259.html?piid=1984302513

Get a pair of lamps for those! 227.00 for two

https://www.overstock.com/Lighting-Ceiling-Fans/Lamp-Sets/29902/cat.html?featuredproduct=13434462&featuredoption=22262498&kid=9553000357392&track=pspla&ci_src=17588969&ci_sku=20126284-000-000&cnc=US&cid=284849&type=pla&targetid=aud-439566767742:pla-718102625404&gclid=Cj0KCQiAz53vBRCpARIsAPPsz8Uo_CP6tHLDy8yXVpyT1HHHQxjW_kPm1dQXu95EMvbQ4IUru_NVPrUaAjS2EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

Paint ABOVE that paneling when you can..........a pale pale misty gray....or ovory...anything is better than stark white.

Add blinds, and ivory sheer panels.

D.O.N.EAND TA DA. DON'T ASK, JUST DO TI : ) His green bankie will still be there.

Oh......... and when he's not home? Sneak in some feminine accent for you........watch your discount stores

Ivory BLACKOUT panels...............23.99 per PAIR

https://www.overstock.com/Home-Garden/Amrapur-Overseas-Faux-Silk-Blackout-Curtain-Panel-Pair/9634426/product.html?kwds=&option=23843621&refccid=EYCZRADOKAVJRKCPI6FEGHYFRU&rfmt=color%3AIvory%7Clight%20filtration%3ABlackout&searchidx=9
December 4, 2019last modified: December 4, 2019
One Devoted Dame
Would white sheets and bedskirt look better than the dark gray ones with the comforters we have?

I'd probably avoid the white bedskirt, but still do white sheets. :-) The white will draw your eye to the bedskirt, and we want to draw the eye to the awesome Euro pillows!

I use extra shams (not Euro) to "make the bed" which add a bit of luxe and color but at night, we only sleep with our regular pillows.

This is what I do. I assemble the bed in the morning, to make it all pretty, and then offload the Pretties before bed. I have a small loveseat in the bedroom that holds all of my extra pillows (2 Euro, 3 standard, 4 accent), so they aren't sitting on the floor all night.
December 4, 2019
V Smith
Would anyone care to comment on my thread about choosing paint colors for my living room? Maybe I didn’t post it in the right area because it’s been ignored. https://www.houzz.com/discussions/5833221/living-room-paint-colors
December 4, 2019
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JAN MOYER
V SMITH

I'll say one thing:

I read the post. ( link above ) There are some more "unfortunate" issues you mention. More tests of will., are there not? Do ONE room. The master. As to the living room, I'd not worry on an accent wall. Not with the blue carpet. You have young kids, a huge play area with slide in the corner. You want the "pass thru" as wall, hubby doesn't.

Stick to the bedroom for now is my advice. One hurdle at a time.

ON that? You've been given a bunch of good options to greatly improve that room. I gave you one this morning! Keep jumping around, and all that will happen to you is frustration and confusion.

Review the existing post and comments

Sit him down

Explain your unhappiness issue without attacking him

Attack the bedroom.

No room in that home will be your "dream", nor close to it, until you sit him down. Sorry, but that is the dilemma that exceeds any you could post about a given room.

He's in a man cave of HIS choosing and you are a grown WOMAN. Remind him. Let him have a hunter green office as your "gift" Then close the damn door to it
December 4, 2019last modified: December 4, 2019
katrina_ellen
Lots of good suggestions here vsmith, do any of them appeal to you?
December 4, 2019
njmomma
Lots of good suggestions above for the bedroom.

Work on one room at a time. Once you have completed the bedroom. Move on to the living room.

It is so easy to get side tracked and when that happens, nothing gets done.
December 4, 2019
V Smith
We are hiring someone to repair the walls and paint the living room, so decisions need to be made for that so the guy can come do the work.
December 4, 2019
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JAN MOYER
Match the hallway ivory

have him paint all the wood paneling in your master?!

What is " repair" ? Closing the "pass thru" that serve no real purpose?

When tour budget has limits, you will be best served by not jumping all over the house. You need a plan...A budget.... And we all know the rest
December 4, 2019last modified: December 4, 2019
V Smith
I'm not fighting the paneling battle right now. This house has tons of paneling/wainscotting--dining room, all four bedrooms, the family room, and the bonus room. It's not my preference, but I can live with the paneling in the master bedroom. It will be a big negotiation to get any of it removed/painted over (DH likes it all), and my least favorites are the rough-hewn pine in one bedroom/bonus room and the dark paneling on one wall of another bedroom, so I'm going after those first.
December 4, 2019
V Smith

This is where I got with stuff I already have. Does the charcoal bedskirt look ok?

I am not good at arranging pillows. Still need covers for the Euro pillows...thinking light gray or silver? Do I need three Euros? Could a body pillow somehow work instead of the Euros? I have one of those with a gray cover.

I do NOT want to hassle with a ton of accent pillows. The pillows in the gray shams are DH’s. I know they aren’t the right size for the shams but I’m not messing with them. I do have loads of extra standard size pillows if that would help anything. I’m not wanting to spend much on this room.
December 4, 2019last modified: December 4, 2019
katrina_ellen
From what I know about body pillows they are about the same height as a regular pillow so I don't think that would give you the look you are trying for. Jan suggested a bed wedge, don't know if they sell covers for it but sounds long enough and if it is taller than your bed pillows, it should cost less. With 6 kids I'm sure you try to save where you can. I do like the grey bedskirt, it cozies it up. Its already looking better just from what you have done. I don't think you need much, long curtains, a lamp, maybe some art.
December 4, 2019
njmomma
The comforter looks good on the bed. I think adding covers to the Euro pillows you have there will help.

The gray end table works too. Add a lamp and some art as suggested above.

If you feel the Euro pillows will be just one more thing to do in the morning or they are just too much money, lose them.

Add two more sleeping pillows (you said you had them in another room) Put them in gray pillow cases and add them to the bed prompt up.

Find a piece of art that will incorporate all the colors in the room.
December 4, 2019last modified: December 4, 2019
salonva
V Smith--- honestly, just making the bed with the ONE comforter, and the new pillows semi arranged looks so much better!
December 4, 2019
Cheryl Hannebauer
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December 4, 2019
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JAN MOYER
As it is said............ "Make your bed and change your world" : )

. and this is definitely worth the watch.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxBQLFLei70
December 4, 2019last modified: December 4, 2019
comelyhomely
Sleeping head to toe, with two sets of blankets, and the nightstand across the room so you don't kick it... Have you considered two smaller, separate beds instead?

The ideal would be to have them either side of the window nearest the bathroom for symmetry, but with your room's dimensions you may end up with one in the corner (where your bed currently is) and one under the window. No sillier-looking than the current setup imo. The nightstand goes in between, with a lamp on top. A lamp is essential!!

PS: There's nothing feminine about your nightstand. Hubby can put his water bottles on it instead of the puny corner shelf and still retain his masculinity. :P I would paint the nightstand white. Your original vision for the room had no grey, and it clashes with with the blue-grey carpet to my eye.

White bedding as well. Again the grey is too much with the dark carpet. You can each pick your own duvets, but find ones that compliments each other. Greens and purples can look quite nice together. Would he go for a sage instead of hunter green, though? It would create an airier look.

Seconding the suggestions to use Euro pillows as a substitute for the headboard he opposes, and lower-profile boxspring as a substitute for the platform he opposes.

(If the two-bed thing doesn't fly, at least get the bed out of the corner and put two nightstands on either side. Paint them to match if he doesn't want a duplicate of yours.)
December 4, 2019
V Smith
Would it work to get a similar style of nightstand but in white to pair with the gray one? I wouldn’t mind getting a different matching set but the gray one is brand new. It’s one of those things I liked better in the store than in my house.
December 4, 2019
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Beth H. :
can you return the gray one and get two in white? if so, do that.

is he going to let you move the bed over and put one on his side?

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or, put it in the kids room and get the color you want. not really a big deal.

you could try a white one like this for both sides

and if he doesn't want one, move the bed over a few more inches and get him a white shelf like this one

I think the gray one looks good though. why don't you put a small lamp and a little plant or something on it? just dress it up a bit
December 4, 2019last modified: December 4, 2019
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JAN MOYER
=I am getting CRANKY ALL LINKS BELOW THE ITEM None of this is hard, even dirt cheap it isn't hard. But you do have click the links.You don't even have to leave the house

That room is never going to look right, until you MOVE THE BED. Follow along please?

You can have a totall brand new room for about 700 bucks. Not just the bed........THE ROOM.

Get three of these : DIRT CHEAP, HAVE A TEXTURE!

https://www.amazon.com/VHC-Brands-Rochelle-Quilted-26x26/dp/B00U1FE49C/ref=pd_sbs_201_img_2/136-0443719-1861629?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B00U1FE49C&pd_rd_r=ea7127a1-31fe-4eff-ab00-fa42ba1dea37&pd_rd_w=cd8af&pd_rd_wg=ADtQg&pf_rd_p=5cfcfe89-300f-47d2-b1ad-a4e27203a02a&pf_rd_r=NTRAP5TG93VS1483GDWD&psc=1&refRID=NTRAP5TG93VS1483GDWD

Put A DARN IVORY QUILT over whatever you and H are sleeping with beneath. (fold that ugly stuff in half length wise).get this ALSO DIRT CHEAP @49.00

https://www.steinmart.com/product/rice+stitch+stonewashed+luxury+quilt+68093335.do?pup_e=1&pup_cid=137610&pup_id=68093699&kid=58c5ae73-dfe4-4b06-bf35-44c6cd33840e&utm_medium=&utm_term=&utm_content=&utm_campaign=&camp=ppc:google:TZ|PLA|Bed&Bath:Non-Brand:Bedding|Quilts:all\bed&bath\bedding\quilts\solid&crtp=paidsearch&gclid=Cj0KCQiAz53vBRCpARIsAPPsz8XSNRmLqJ8oSCgvRyXKIVC1VrJgqcrsND6Wg4r-uUJVNNrq7RykkBIaAlbYEALw_wcB

You said the room was FREEZING. get these flannel sheets

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000FVW5Z2/ref=s9_acsd_simh_hd_bw_bB2Nkzb_c2_x_0i?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=merchandised-search-5&pf_rd_r=1H9FFXTNTZAMKDW3EC0N&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_p=7e003134-eb85-4135-9b4a-5a423f20cc7d&pf_rd_i=10112676011

get a darn LAMP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TWO! DIRT CHEAP ON AMAZON

https://www.amazon.com/Grandview-Gallery-Table-Lamps-Light/dp/B0764MJK7K/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=silver+lamps&qid=1575538835&s=home-garden&sr=1-3

GET A COVER FOR YOUR BODY PILLOW 24.99 AT BBB

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LAST?

GET EARPLUGS AND STOP SLEEPING LIKE A BAT, UPSIDE DOWN ( AMAZON )

Move the bed, get the ivory BLACK OUT CURTAINS.

https://www.amazon.com/Darkening-Curtain-Insulated-Treatment-Efficient/dp/B00Y4K23XE/ref=sr_1_6?crid=197URVGXMG4SU&keywords=ivory+blackout+curtains+84+inches+long&qid=1575541395&sprefix=ivory+black+out%2Caps%2C158&sr=8-6

and GET TWO NIGHTSTANDS. You each will have a lamp. Like grown ups.

https://www.amazon.com/Sauder-400639-Harbor-Night-Stand/dp/B00101R76S/ref=sr_1_6?crid=2TQJ020FUDU36&keywords=ivory+night+stands+for+bedrooms&qid=1575539879&sprefix=IVORY+NIGHT+STAND%2Caps%2C149&sr=8-6

Get a furry throw...............

https://www.amazon.com/Bedsure-Super-Reversible-Sherpa-Blanket/dp/B07X3BX7WM/ref=sr_1_3_sspa?crid=VVRA9Z6YHSNK&keywords=fur+throws+for+couch&qid=1575540411&sprefix=fur+throws%2Caps%2C148&sr=8-3-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEyN0RSMlk5WlRBTkxPJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwOTgzODMzS1BJTENGNTk3N01QJmVuY3J5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTEwMjEwNzIxNlcyUTVYSEYzMzE4JndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==
December 5, 2019last modified: December 5, 2019
Cheryl Smith
To be brutally honest you won't be able to "pull the decor together" without changing things that you say can't be changed. Our bedrooms should be a place of peace and quiet. A place to get away from the chaos that I'm sure comes with 6 kids. I just see discord in this room. Ideally a bed is positioned centered on a wall so that each person has an equal space to enter, That also gives each person a similar walking distance to the entrance door, bathroom and closet. Being able to walk around the bed also makes the bed a lot easier to make. Does your husband crawl over you every night? I don't get the sleeping position with you opposite so you each have feet in your face. That can't be good. Is his cpap on the Floor? I have one myself and use a dresser as my nightstand because it takes up space and needs to be close. You should both have night tables BESIDE the bed for lighting, reading materials and a place to put glasses both reading and drinking. You may not believe in feng shui, but there are a lot of principles that do make sense. How a room feels affects how it functions and looks. The bed should be the focus of the room and have a headboard even if you screw it to the wall. You should also be able to see the door from bed. If the bed can't move, you have no option but to live with what it is. Changing wall color and bedding just on your side isn't even a bandage. Your room will always feel off if it lacks the things we expect in a bedroom. Think of a nice hotel room. It is set up for you to feel comfortable. If your closet is actually the quietest place in the house maybe you should move his desk in there and make his office available to use for your kids. Even if it works now, Eventually you and your toddler will want them to be out of your closet. Do you have a plan for that? 2 kids in each bedroom will allow you to get some of their toys out of the living room so it also functions better. But that's another post. As your kids get older they need to have a space they feel comfortable to bring friends to.
December 5, 2019
Cheryl Smith
I missed the photo of your room with the remade bed where you moved the night table before posting my last comment "To be brutally honest " just doing those small things pulled the room together. You and your husband have to feel good about that even if you make no other changes. I never used to make my bed. But just doing that every morning gets the day started out right for me. One simple task completed. On to the next one. Made even easier if you do it together. One step at a time.
December 5, 2019
comelyhomely
Wow @V Smith I missed your last post before mine but it makes SUCH a nice difference just having the bed made, with the tall pillows acting as a visual headboard and the nightstand where it should be.

Charcoal bedskirt is ok, yes. Blends into the carpet.

I’m not a fan of fancy pillow arrangements either. Three Euros are all you need, plus the ones you sleep on and the purple accent. White or ivory covers for the Euros — we want lightness in this room!

If you’re unable to return/sell the grey nightstand and get a matching white set, then yes get a different white one for his side. (Again, ditch the teensy corner shelf and centre the bed under the window). Mismatched nightstands are totally fine. Paint yours white to tie the two together. Add lamps to each.

Return/sell the existing curtains and blinds. The curtains make the room feel cramped and the blinds don’t work (let light around the edges). Replace with cellular blinds in white or wooden blinds in the same tone as the trim.
December 5, 2019last modified: December 5, 2019
njmomma
@JAN MOYER hahaha "Cranky"

I have to say I like when you get "Cranky".

You post all and everything needed to bring the room together.
December 5, 2019
doods
Jan - really enjoyed the youtube video with Admiral McRaven very inspiring, thank you!
December 5, 2019
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JAN MOYER
doods

I love that video. Make the bed. An easy thing. Do one harder thing after that. Now do an easy thing, like an Amazon return, then a hard thing........

Before you know it? A S _ _ _ _ _ _ of stuff is done, and you feel like a master of your UNIVERSE ???!

I lecture myself like this when I wake feeling like a slug . Make bed.......get ass to gym..... shower/doll up .....answer ugly email...lol. Easy /hard/easy/ hard and on you go. End day with wine well deserved .

Note: hanging around ugly and un showered until four pm? NO. A killer. You won't go anywhere or get anything done. : )

Short version per Newton "An object in motion, stays in motion......" so it DOES.

Per Mom? " Get off your DUFF, please." hahhahaahahhahaha
December 5, 2019last modified: December 5, 2019
doods
Jan love it (above). As per my Mom too, she died at 101 so must have done something right, and was a self disciplined always "in motion" person. I am not, lol or :-( so I do need reminders, which is why I like your video.
December 5, 2019last modified: December 5, 2019
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JAN MOYER
I have two speeds. Full out dead run and..... dead STOP. Thank heavens they are pretty equal time wise . If i'm not up by five am? Check the hospitals. Do NOT look for me after nine pm.: ) unless YOU are dying.
December 5, 2019last modified: December 5, 2019
doods
You sound like my niece who is also a successful decorator, maybe goes with the territory!
December 5, 2019

how do I pull this bedroom decor together?

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