Yes, all over again.

I have renovated two white kitchens and I am glad I did. I love the timelessness of white cabinets. I did not go with solid wood for my shaker cabinets the second time so probably won't have the gap issue you describe. I live in a more humid climate so instead we did MDF Cabico Cabinetry. I love this company. But even with our northern kitchen we did not have any gaps as you describe. Up north we did not have the shaker door style. I would have loved to have a professional cabinet maker making my cabinets. You will love them. We looked into it and it was out of my price range so went with Cabico.

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Your material choice will make a difference in how your cabinets will age. MDF will be more stable than solid wood.