golden harvest walls make the contrast w white even more so. stark . try a light sagey green wall. backsplash in a patterned tile w color.....think country french or portugese hand made colorful tile. the cabinets are fine. how about some cup pulls... just get a little more cozy slightly country feel and the white will actually look fresh rather than irritating as you feel about it now. You're doing great . it wont be hard to pull this all together.

Can you change your wall color to a more neutral I notice your wall color is pulling really brownish yellow