You are correct. Too many out-of-the-ordinary requests will not result in a good outcome. Seems to me that door style and finish along with construction would be the first item that would place a cabinet manufacturer on or off a list

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I agree that it is a bit ridiculous to go with a cabinet company which doesn't make frameless and doesn't have a finish you like.

Is this an actual kitchen designer or is this a saleperson at a kitchen store. While there are many talented kitchen designers who work for cabinet sales company aka as "kitchen stores" I would personally be suspicious of a sales person who was pushing a brand.

When I was doing research for my remodel I visited a lot of kitchen places because I wanted to look at all of the brands that were available and get a sense of what the pricing would be for my kitchen - approximately of course but it would still give me a sense of which ones were in my budget. I honestly was not tied to any of the sales people as I was interested in the cabinets specifically - I would then take home literature and read about the specifics of construction and what styles were available etc.

Thank you for the replies, let me clarify a few things. Yes, she’s an actual very real designer who has done amazing work and no she’s not being pushy about Brighton in particular. She’s also helping us with drawings for the rest of our very small house. I asked her a question, that was her answer and I just wondered if anyone here ever heard of it. I don’t think getting a custom color is an unusual or difficult request so that alone wouldn’t stop me from using Brighton. I’ve found that most companies don’t have anything colorwise that I really want. But from what Im reading, it seems Brighton makes better cabinets than Eclipse, and I do prefer to choose higher quality if I can afford it. There’s honestly only a few odd places in the kitchen where I really want frameless due to their more narrow size. I don’t have to get my first preference necessarily, as long as the color/door is right. I think, anyways.

I wound up getting cabinets made by a local cabinet shop recommended by my designer. They are frameless with full overlay and a few inset doors in upper cabinets. I selected the wood (quarter sawn oak); the stain and the doors were designed by my designer with inout from me.

do you mind sharing the cabinet shop name if you were happy with them?