Lol Tiffany I would also have the windows open at 69°F. Probably even at around 60°. I’m a fresh air girl and I sleep with my window open at night even in the winter time. unless it’s windy and super cold, if it’s a balmy 0°C the window is open.

Thank you Lia, a bit mysterious? You think leaving it the way it is, is good? Or does it need an inner?

Not sure how it happened and probably didn’t even notice except on a big screen, but I see the top left corner got off, pretty far off? Maybe the ribbon shifted when I put the glass back in? I’m not going to bother with it unless I take it apart to add another thin color inner border.

Ok I now see your previous post 🤪 of perhaps leaving it like it is. Yes beaded or thin anything would be extremely difficult I’m thinking at this poiny. I taped it pretty much all together. I had fabric glue here but hesitated. I did during all this have to go find my wood glue bc my dining chair came apart lol

Any kind of liquid glue would be very tricky. And in fact even those little photo stick things have volume. You could probably get away with the two-sided tape but personally I would leave it alone unless you really feel like putting some extra work into it. I’d leave it for a while and see how you feel about it.

My experience with liquid glue and thin ribbon is that the glue bleeds through the satin ribbon and you end up with spots that are darker. As well it’s very hard to keep it from losing out onto the black velvet. It’s tricky to get the right amount of glue because the ribbon absorbs it so it doesn’t want to stick. And you don’t want to use a glue gun because the little threads go everywhere.

Which is where I’m inclined to say this is good enough! lol

Lia I’m wanting to agree with you on all accounts. Those you mentioned, which there are not any other adhesives I’m aware of could just really take me backwards on this little endeavor. I do like it this way, seems more intriguing to me. If anything the goldenrod but then there’s the big chance, especially with my inexperience of using glues and what nots with fabric could really upset me if it were to falter. I’m guessing I’ll move onto another project 👏

I got your card today Alice.😉 It was at the post office on Saturday, but I try not to go out on the weekend with all the tourists.😎

Maui has cut down on her eating half of her food and she's had a couple litter box accidents outside the box but right by the Box and she told me she was sorry and I told her it's okay and so it got cleaned up of course she's been sleeping right by the litter box at night until she decides to move later if her stomach feels okay I am such a basket case I can't even remember what I'm doing at times I'm trying to focus sometimes I start reading something real slow then wonder why it took me hours just to do something like read something I keep playing all the stuff with the vet said in my head I know she's trying to make a profit but then sometimes I think it's if it's a worst case scenario it might be okay then I go wait a minute she has a nacho and Google said the outcome could be that she has cancer and the other place like the spleen and liver and then it would would have a bad prognosis unless it's a simple non benign one but since she has the Nacho and the spleen and liver and she's had that carcinoma cell called a matte cell they called it on her spine a couple years ago maybe they didn't take enough out they should have took extra area cuz maybe it metastasize on her liver and it just slow going since then cuz of that lady did bring that up so I just don't think this is going to be good and I'm trying to accept it but it is so hard!

So…vet still doesn’t have a diagnosis? What is the treatment she is proposing then? Maui has anemia, enlarged liver and spleen. She is having trouble eating, and has issues with her jawbone/teeth. She had cancer a couple of years ago. What is the vet proposing as a solution?Exactly?

Gls I’m so glad you got my card, and with that said I’ve been able to up my game on my Christmas card list. There was “a person” that had sent me a cute little kitty jigsaw puzzle without a card only first initial and last name on the return. Well, since I’m learning every one’s “aka” here, I still could not figure out who it was? In fact I had inquired here at one point. Mom told me she had a friend that sent me a puzzle without actually not knowing the circumstances. She was just sending me something she had to pass on lol So the story unraveled and became quite funny then especially the way I wrote my thank you card!

Yes, learning each other’s “ real” identity is quite funny and fun! 😀

So true! And I wanted to thank you again for your prayers and support here. That meant the world me 🥰 it astonishes me how kind people can be that I have never met :).

I received the thank you card Alice. That was so sweet!

I hope you had a good day today. Here we had beautiful weather. I went outside and did some cleaning in the garden. I'm pretty happy with what I was able to do..I wasn't feeling too great..tired, a bit dizzy, but as I spent more time outside, the doziness went away. All that sun and fresh air seems to do the trick:) Now I just finished baking some things and finally sitting down..I am tired:) OH went next door to replace the garbage disposal for his sister..the previous one they got to replace was broken in the box so they had to return and order a new one..Hopefully things go smoothly and he'll be back before midnight:)

Oh I did the same thing Printesa. Spent a lot of time out back just cleaning and pulling weeds. Fresh air and sunshine is a cure all in my book. I do hope you’re feeling better! That dizziness is nothing to fool around with. But that’s a good tired from personal experience here lately. I’m now waiting until dark to roll out our heavy trash bin bc I’ll be grunting and sliding and don’t want the neighbors to see me lol. I imagine with your baking the house smells soooo good 😊 ack on the disposal. You and close relatives are fortunate to have OH handyman there! If he gets a wiff of your baking he may just hurry and get on home. I’m glad you got my thank you card. Thank you’s are never enough or just words to let everyone here know how blessed I am to be part of our Houzz community. Just how fortunate could I be 🥰 honestly I have never been so thankful. I’m finally sitting now too! The time change with loosing an hour didn’t seem to affect me as far as running out of time. I’m guessing bc it stayed light longer and I just kept going lol. I’ve cleared some flower beds and am just moving along the yard cleaning. We have had windy days here but pleasant.

Vet wants to do a biopsy on spleen & liver. She may bleed little or lots! She would remove spleen. She may need chemo. No money for chemo. She maybe had this problem started December with trembling a little ( Hyperthyroid). The cancer 2 yrs ago was removed may have metastasized on liver. Maybe they didn't remove enough?

Happy, you'll have to do what you think is best for your beloved kitty but let me share that some years ago I had a cat that I knew something wasn't as it should be with her. She just wasn't herself but x-rays weren't conclusive. I agreed to let the vet do surgery. The sweet girl made it through the surgery, which turned out to be inconclusive, but she died in the transport vehicle leaving that animal hospital to go to another one that had overnight post-surgical care. I never got to hold her or to say 'good-bye' to her one last time. That really affected me and I didn't rescue another cat for a good many years.

When my most recent cat (she was 19 at the time) began to show signs of 'something's not right' I took her to the vet three times about it. They even kept her over the long Memorial Day weekend and used fluid drips, etc. but nothing made much of a change. I had already told myself we were not going to put her through any surgery. She did sorta O.K. for a few days after the last visit and then she completely lost interest in eating, or walking around, or doing any of her usual things. She was still breathing but she was not herself at all. I knew it was time for ME to let HER go. This time I got to hold her as she was leaving life. It was really really hard but I know I did the best thing for HER. That's what really matters. To do the best thing for the little animal that you love. I sincerely believe you will know when that time comes, Happy. It's so hard for us but the last gift we can give to them. You've been a wonderful human Mom to your sweet lady. Don't second guess any past decisions you've made. She knows she's been loved.

Thanks JayI I'm happy for your support

Sorry to hear that Maui doesn't have a clear path for treatment with her vet. I hope they get to the results quickly for you. I know how much anxiety this is causing all of you. Cant move forward because you can't see how. Praying for you all Happy.

happy, it'd difficult to make a decision for the kitty..If they can test and diagnose without hurting the kitty, you would know what the expectations are..as for chemo, those are always iffy. We have a friend who is now a vet, but he always had cats with issues and even he didn't go for the chemo because the outcome is not really worth it..

What Jay said. No chemo. With her history, and all those symptoms it is almost certainly cancer. What else could it be…what is the point of a biopsy just to find that out? No cure at this point.

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If the vet is proposing biopsy just to confirm cancer, no. Don’t do it. Let her die with as much love as you can. You can keep her home, keep her as comfortable as you can; you will know when it is time, and she may pass on her own.

No point either… in an operation to remove spleen. Even with people that is major. And she has other issues. And she is an older cat. My opinion is…start letting her go…in whatever way you can. Believe me I know, we ALL know, just how hard this is. Sending you love and strength and 🙏 for you both.

happy, I 100% support your decision to not do chemo if it came to that. I've had to make that decision for a kitty as well. Does the vet know that and is still proposing a biopsy? Sending you strength. ❤️

When she said that the vet I'm talking about I said I need to think I don't know the Maui heard me say that and she looked at me and pointed to the door let's go! And the picture wanted to do the surgery she told me all the days that she's be at work other than the other days she's had a family helping them with their medical and I knew I didn't want to do that cuz it just sounded crazy that she could bleed too much or only a little and I thought why put her two more torture maybe it's really too late cuz they didn't like you know do testing the year later maybe they didn't get it all the first time Maui ate quite a bit almost the whole half a can this morning and she's taking a nice nap in the sunny window laying in a on position with their head down by the window more hanging kind of but partially on the bench but she's still there and she's okay

I think I forgot to say thanks peeps I'm really in my head real bad! Sometimes I can't remember I did something and I go check and I did do it just not fully here and there's drama at my house off and on and I'll even cried when oh was yelling then I had to calm her down told her it's okay

Happy I’m just sorry you’re going through this maze with sweet Maui. I see your options here. Either get a second opinion or let her be as she is definitely not doing great but on the other hand with her age and your love and getting to just be home with comfort and love of the people she knows and her familiar surroundings. If you have to just keep digging then it’s stressful and if and what a biopsy tells you, then what? Kemo you have no money for, which you are certainly not alone, believe me plus those procedures are not going to help in her situation only destress her systems. My advice, and you certainly don’t have to take it, is you already know she is anemic, why? Not sure? But get her diet on a canned cat food for seniors that is highest in ingredients for anemic, iron. We used this bc our ferals came with so many fleas which made them extremely anemic. And it made great improvements. Lay off the visits unless you just have to keep searching for problems that are most likely irreversible in her case. Keep her with you safe and sound there at home. That’s where she wants to be. Like Ripply I treated her as a hospice kitty and she was happy and comfortable and did fine until she couldn’t. It’s ok to not have to try to treat every whim or vet visit what ifs and perhapses. Too stressful. They probe and want to help, but sometimes it’s best to let things take their natural way.

This product is great and our cats just go gaga over it. Packed full of vitamins and minerals, high in iron. It was hard for me to just give her the daily recommended bc she loved it so much. But all things in moderation plus it’s not too cheap, but not priced where I couldn’t afford. Maybe even liver, organ meat from the grocery store. Affordable but remember moderation. Slow down on all this for both of your sakes and she will too 💗 hugs to you my friend. You can do this. Try to relax about it if possible, remember she feels your stress and that’s the worst thing for her right now.

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Okay another word Molly I was trying to say Maui but the stupid phone likes to put that in there sometimes she didn't like the senior formula very well and it was wet food but she's having her issues as of now anyway at the clinic the vet has three bets there Molly

And Maui has anemia because she's hyperthyroid and then that can lead to heart condition high blood pressure breathing problems kidney failure heart failure all the bad stuff here plus she has her spleen and liver problems such a sad mixture! We are all heartbroken here

Isn't something Omega either vitamin E or fish she can't have fish cuz they're hyperthyroidism so tuna wouldn't be good for her cats between the ages of 10 and 12 can get a hyper thyroid that leads to other problems

Happy try getting some chicken livers in the little containers or a beef liver and cut just a tiny tiny piece and see if she’ll eat it. No salt, no canned. Only a tiny bit in the morning and at night. Let her eat the other stuff she likes too or smush or hide it in her food. Those are organ meets. Treat what you know. Anemia can wreak havoc on everything els. Low red blood cells. Makes us tired among other things. Have to treat it slow like a medication would. She might also eat a bit of scrambled egg.

One of my cats in the past loved raw liver. Alice is right you just cut it up in small pieces.

She won't eat egg. I won't feed raw food. Fancy feast has chick & liver? I could buy real liver & give small piece.

Happy yes, next time you go to grocery, look at the beef liver, just get the smallest piece they have and try it. The butcher behind may have scraps even and package a little small package up for you 💗

Raw liver does make a mess… I can’t remember which cat I used to feed it to. It was a long time ago. It wasn’t one of the fabulous four.

Well I spent all day over at my daughter’s house today. She’s downsizing and we almost got one entire bedroom that was a catch all gone through. Lots of throw away and my Jeep is completely packed with donations. “Things” are still extremely quiet here 😢. I’m staying busy but wonder why? Just going through the motions, I guess. Still so very difficult and awkward to say the least. Like how busy do I have to stay to avoid total sadness? I try to put my BGP’s on then just collapse with sadness. Sorry for the Debbie downer :(. I’m praying for a ray of sunshine. I’ve read that if you cannot give someone love, then give them hope and if there is not hope yet on the horizon then at least give them something to do 🤗

Wish there was a magic wand i could wave to make things better! I think helping others, like your daughter is a good thing. It’s just a rotten time. But each day you do something is a good step. Just don’t get too far ahead of yourself. Digging weeds and getting your hands on the earth is very good and will help ground you. Is it too soon to start cleaning out your garage? That would buy you some storage space and you might make some money selling stuff? Just a thought. You could keep some of Raymond’s best loved items for memories sake but let others enjoy what you don’t need. Idk. All up to you.

Plus, good weather for it. In another month it will be too hot!

Alice, there’s no easy way to go through losing somebody. I got an email from a dear friend of mine who lost her Artist husband two years ago. She sold their home out here on the eastern shore which he had designed and bought a place further away from her community. The transition for her was very difficult therefore…however she emailed me from Portugal where she’s vacationing with her daughter… That this year‘s anniversary, she was able to talk about her husband without completely collapsing into grief. As well, she got support from a grief counsellor this fall…which I urged her to do. She found a woman therapist who she could work with… although I haven’t asked her for details it was effective. As well, she is volunteering in her community. So yes, keeping busy is definitely a thing. So is getting support. So is time and having patience with yourself.

There are bereavement support groups here and I’m assuming that they are also in your area. It may be too soon for you to consider that but sometimes it’s helpful to hang out with other people who are in the same boat. It’s hard not to feel guilt about not being up and peppy, but nobody expects you to do that here. We all wish that we could do more to help you and if one of those things that helps is talking about your feelings here please do it.❤️

Alice, you are being too hard on yourself! It has only been a short time and a sadden loss. After my friend’s OH past away from cancer, she literally didn’t get out of bed or the house for a month!😯 You are doing amazing! And I also support the use of a grief support group. There wasn’t one around here 5 yrs ago. My neighbor was so overwhelmed. She and her pastor had one up and running within 12 months! 15 people arrived to the first gathering! They meet monthly and she is a VERY active volunteer with the group. Each month different people attend. My mother in law went to one sponsored by the hospital. There she met my former neighbor of 40 yrs prior! Small world stories. 😉

Alice, I agree with not being too hard on yourself. This happened so unexpectedly!

As said above, with time, you may want to check into a support group if that is something you would consider. The advantage of that is you don't have to talk if you don't want to. Some people are not cut out to talk to someone individually, but could do a group (like me).

Sadness/grief is okay. Keeping busy is good. Being out in the fresh air is good. And letting the silly kitties make you laugh even better. Hugs. ❤️

Yes Gls is right! It took my friend two years to begin to recover and my sister three years and even then there are of course still moments. The grief will shift and change…which is why a support group is good. You get to see different stages and hear other people’s stories and have things to think about that you might not have considered. In the meantime we are your support group!

Alice, you are doing very well considering the unexpected loss and such a short time since that happened. Everyone here has great advice and we are all here for you. Keeping busy is good..not saying that it will make you forget, but it helps you pass the time, concentrating on something else. In time, it will be easier so keeping busy as much as you can during this time, it's the best you can do. Those kitties depend on you and at the same time they rule the house, so they keep you busy:) Hugs and prayers ❤️

Your daughter just moved there it seems like a year ago she's now downsizing that's too much moving they must not like the place then? I hope you enjoyed your stay with them for a little bit and if you're getting ready to anything at your house keep your rock table collection you made for your oh Ray and the cat that he favored and plus you got that new picture that he helped find for you! I hope you're having a good day we're supposed to get two to four inches of snow Friday Saturday Sunday I don't know how much snow the other day hopefully that's just all we're going to get for the whole weekend and the grass is starting to get a tad green but just a tad and it's 47 out currently the sun is kind of shining pretty good not bad

happy, I think Alice's daughter was just clearing out some stuff, they are not moving. I believe they have lived in their house for quite a while.

We had a fair bit of rain and then freezing rain and then maybe 3 inches of snow that I woke up to this morning. Spring is definitely not here yet. it was nice to lie in bed and listen to the rain however.

One of the biggest joys of retirement is not having to get out of bed .. or …out of the house…when you don’t feel like it…🤗