Colors look nice… I’d probably do the walls and the white cabinets the same white color. And paint all the cabinets white.
And the blue for the island.

At the same time… you can also work with the brown cabinets and change out the countertops , backsplash and island…

Thanks. We don't want to change out the granite counter tops or backsplash. 

Not sure about using the oyster white in the walls and cabinets as well. I think that could look a bit washed out.

I would leave the cabinets, and not sure why you are thinking greige for the walls, since you said, trying to tone down the beige everywhere a bit. Greige is very close to beige. Maybe look at a pale green, or a very pale blue or a very pale turquoise, that will go well with everything and give your kitchen a bit lighter, brighter, happier look, than grays, creams, and beiges or greiges do.

It's not so much the beige, I should edit my first note. It's to introduce some greys while respecting the warm tone in the tile.  

I hate the cabinet color so that needs to change.

We have multiple slabs worth of granite to swap out which is prohibitively expensive.

Out of curiosity, if you were to suggest an alternative counter top and backsplash what would that be?

I don't think you're going to be able to successfully move toward gray with the counters and floors staying. Since gray is now in the rear view mirror as a fashion you shouldn't be moving in that direction unless it's a color you personally prefer. Warm colors are coming back in, so this kitchen could be more on point soon. To me the Perfect Greige looks too gray next to the countertop. If Alabaster looks good next to the floors and counters that would be my choice for the cabinets. It would brighten up the room and is guaranteed to go with your trim. But sample to make sure it's not going to look too white. You may have to go with something more off white like Creamy or Natural Choice. I agree with @cat_ky that introducing some green or blue-green could give the room a lift. A true blue is going to be challenging with the counters and floor.

Of course everything is expensive - but before you put money into a refurb, think hard about whether you would be better served by waiting and doing a complete remodel later. Are your cabinet interiors in excellent condition? Is the layout of your kitchen working for you? You have the staggered heights that were frequently done in the '90's. Painting or refacing isn't going to change that look.

Painting cabinets correctly requires alot of time and skill and is not for the inexperienced. Done professionally, it is costly but gives the best results. Save your money and focus on what does and does not work in your kitchen and then remodel when you are able. In the short term though, I would add pulls to the cabinets. I always think it looks unfinished when there is no hardware.

What strikes me as unattractive and dated are your counters and backsplash, I am sorry, but it's how I see it. Or if you don't want to change the counters, then the backsplash should be changed. The wood cabinets look nice, and are not the issue in your kitchen's appearance. They just need some hardware, as has been mentioned. And sometimes when you paint cabinets, within a couple years there are chips and bleedthrough. Picking the correct white paint is quite difficult. But you want two paint colors, with your busy counter and your busy granite? Think about that.

I actually don't mind the countertops at all but dislike the wood cabinets. This isn't about staying on trend or anything it's just being tired of the overall appearance and a desire for something other than kilm beige. For reference this was an inventory home designed and built this way in 2012 so we had no input to the design or color. 

Do appreciate the input on the offending items and colors. Certainly food for thought. Given the sheet quantity of granite we have (not all shown) it's hard to imagine ripping it all out.

I know some people on this site disagree with piecemeal changes, but when you’re not sure what to do, I think it can be a good place to start. I like the blue in your color scheme and think it would work even if you start out keeping the wood cabinets.

I think going toward gray is going to be hard while keeping your counter and backsplash, but you might get away from the beige by going whiter on the walls (I've mocked up Oyster White, but you could probably go a bit brighter.) Then since you have paintable wall around your island, what if you start with the blue there to see how you like it in the room? I've mocked up the cabinets there being painted as well, but you could skip that to begin with.

And some Pinterest inspiration: https://www.pinterest.com/pin/211174963343427/

I think the cabinets look great. Just need some hardware to jazz them up a bit. Of course I grew up in the Era of people carpeting over hardwood floors and painting natural woodwork white so I'm never in favor of painting over wood.

I'd spend the money on new countercounters and backsplash if possible. There are a lot of options out there that incorporate grey with the warmer brown tones.

You don't have to change out all the counters. You can paint the island and just change that counter or you can change out just the perimeter counter. A lot of kitchens are done in that same way.

Take a look at SW Snowbound for cabinets and all trim, and SW Neutral Ground for walls. I would consider doing island in black and have black cabinet knobs on perimeter.

I have to agree with the others. I'd keep the pretty wood cabinets, add hardware, and swap out the counters and backsplash. Here are some images that you might like? Some have warm white countertops and others have dark. Although most of the floors here are wood, I think they're warm like your tile floors so all the colors would work.

Thank you all for the comments. Much appreciated.