Backsplash and counters is what I would change out. I would not touch those cabinets as they are not really the issue. You get everything to tie together and the red be less apparent.

Ty! I just can't figure out what colors for the counter & backsplash! I don't want anything in the brown family at all!

Search natural cherry kitchen in photos. There are lots that go with brown counter/backslash, but many others with lovely cream or black. Those cabinets are beautiful (imo). Take a look at what's out there.

I did some googling. You can certainly lighten things up. However, your floor will need to be changed too, so don't make a decision that doesn't factor in the floor.

In this photo, they have a hardwood floor. Not necessarily my favorite, but I like the counters and backsplash.

Looks like they coordinated a glass backsplash with the counter. Note the tiny piece of flooring coordinates as well.

The above counter might be a speckled quartz.

As GW mentions, start searching and creating an inspiration folder. Pictures are worth a thousand words when you walk into a showroom.

Visit as many kitchen showrooms, including big box stores for ideas. I wouldn't recommend the big box stores for install, as they not consistent. But you could get good deal on tile there.

Don't jump into anything too quickly. This will be costly and you don't want to live with a mistake.

When you find actual real life examples, come back here and post them for added help and reassurance.

In the end, it's your kitchen, but I have found that the majority of members here will steer you in the right direction.

I would recommend working with a tile store initially. Once you have selected the tile your installer can make the purchase based on his/her professional measurements and often get a professional contractors discount. The tile advisor and the installer will also help you evaluate what type of switch plates would to chose, any finishing on the corners or edges, etc.
As is often mentioned your lighting plays a huge part of color depth, and tones. Once these changes have taken place and you still feel the wood color is in your face, upper cabinet glass doors.

I think you could just change the backsplash and add hardware and that would make a huge difference.

This kitchen might be a good inspiration.

Gray Soapstone tops would be a nice look. The floor appears to be a terracotta look tile. I think most tops will go with it, some great and some acceptable as it is fairly neutral in my opinion.

I would just remove the too busy backsplash, and repair and prime the walls, all of the walls, to start with. That gives you a clean slate to imagine something different, without those things in your face. The gold granite and travertine floor wouldn't be my favorite, but I could live with them with a calm bisque subway, and something like SW Alabaster walls. I certainly would not paint those cabinets!

I agree the cabinets are quite nice and I would keep and add nice knobs after you make other changes. The backsplash would be the first to go for me. If you like the countertop then you can easily get tile samples to compliment the countertop.

This kitchen will never be gray and white, so you need to look at other choices that will improve the space.

The backsplash needs to go first!

I would not paint the cabinets. Painted cabinets do not hold up as well as wood. You can definitely lighten up the mood of the room with a new backsplash and countertop. I'd also suggest painting the walls a different color - possibly burlap or greige. Maybe even a light sage green. That may help to downplay the oragne in the cabinets.

As far as the farmhouse style, you can add that look with your decor and hardware. It's not worth ruining perfectly good cabinets for a style that you may not like in another five years. I'm not a fan of them because of ergonomics, but maybe adding cup pulls to the drawers would help achieve the look you are going for.

Thank you all for your thoughts and advice! Very much appreciated!

Here are five inspiring photos with warm wood.

A new light fixture in place of the ceiling fan would go a long way toward elevating the look of your kitchen. If you need the fan, though, there are better looking options.

Also, artwork that repeats the color of the cabinets is a nice way to make the room more cohesive.

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