Based on the photos, which aren't always an accurate, I would pick the first one.

Either one.

Just a personal preference, I like the French Gray and anything in that color range.

Most of my clients prefer that color.

Thanks for the responses! We went with French Grey. Any suggestions on a cool deck color? I love the blue tile, but the white coping is a little brighter than I had wanted. I'm hoping that the color of the cool deck will help the white blend rather than stand out so much.

This is a pic of the pool with plaster but no water yet.