We need to see the space and the lights in the kitchen . The interweb is not a designer .

Another option is to use the largest chandelier that your table's width can support, then recessed lights on each side. We did that for our 100" dining table as DH disliked linear fixtures. It's great. The 2 2" cans give a decent amount of light on their own when we want just a little light. With the drum chandelier and the can lights on, the table is lit very evenly.

Without seeing a single picture, I am with hubby,

Five surface mounted lights in a single view is quite a lot of visual clutter. Add pictures all angles of kitchen and dining, and until you do that? No advice is totally valid: )

Adding to the 'lighting store" visual is that it sounds like this is a large open concept area. Have you moved in? Furniture might help the space appear more intimate. Large expanses give one the impression of a warehouse if not furnished well.

It's been done before. I think it looks good but do share your husbands concern about the lighting store look. Would a long linear chandelier be an option for you?

We have 2 large lanterns over our long dining table but it’s in a separate dining room so don’t have to worry about overkill - if you love the dining fixtures, could you skip pendants?

I guess it depends on what number of lights you think pushes you over into the lighting store category!

You can usually find an example of most ideas on Houzz photos!

The answer will be ... it depends on the actual space, the light fixtures used and the overall design scheme of the space.

3 pendants over island and 2 chandeliers over table

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2 pendants over island and 5 pendants over table.

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A custom glass chandelier designed to fit perfectly in your space could be the solution. Attached are some ideas for dining room chandeliers. You can pick any glass f=design you like from our collection.

I actually like the idea of using two chandeliers if the dining table and the room are large enough. The key is keeping the fixtures visually lighter than the island pendants so they complement each other instead of competing.

I'd also make sure all the fixtures share a common design language (shape, finish, or style). That usually makes the whole space feel intentional instead of looking like a lighting showroom.

While planning my own lighting ideas, I found it much easier to compare fixtures in real interiors rather than product photos. I put together a comparison of eight modern designer lighting ideas that might help visualize different approaches:

https://youtu.be/nKEcEzpYHhk

Yes ^^..........especially as it doesn't consider the style or feel in any of the posts. Turns a comment to the s.p.a.m. that it is.