Hello irchik716.
Don't panic, OK?
Don't use any "white" at all but rather, choose the lightest tone of gray,
or white with gray undertones, in the same color family as your walls.
Use an eggshell or gloss finish.
Problem solved.

The rule of thumb here is that if you cannot match a color exactly,
use a deliberate-looking contrast.
That way it won't appear as if you've missed the mark.

The best of luck to you.
~LMD

Thanks for your response LMD do you think Sherwin Williams Dover White would work? We're thinking to just paint all millwork in the house as closest color to the kitchen cabinets as we can.

What a shame they didn't turn out as you wanted them.
I think match the paint with the kitchen

Hello again irchik716.
I think you should buy paint samples or large, paper paint swatches & try them in the room, before you commit to using the color in its entirety.
Look at the samples in different light (evening light, natural daylight etc) & live with them a bit.
You will know which one is right by your emotional reaction.
You can do this!
~LMD

I feel for you. How disappointing. Don't repaint all your trim work! Have the cabinets painted the white they wrote supposed to be. You will always look at them and think they're yellowish. This will affect your counters, backsplash and everything. Good luck.