Why don't you take him with you? If you can't for some reason (like Mom is allergic to cats) then he'll probably do fine if DH follows the regular routine and also keeps him separated from the other cats.

My dog is terribly attached to me and is my shadow when I'm home. He has very little to do with my DH and even guards (with stance, no growling) the food bowl when DH gets near it. I've left the house before for nearly 3 weeks and my dog does fine. He realizes DH is the one to now give him attention, feed him, etc. and doesn't show any signs of missing me except for staring at the garage door every now and then. Since your cat likes your DH I think it will be the same. His affection will be more directed at DH during your absence.

DH being around, even though in and out of the house, will be MUCH better than an empty house and a pet sitter checking in!

Thank you, annz

Yes, Mom won't allow the cat... it's an 8 hour drive anyway and plus she would hate the hair - I am NOT like my Mom ;0) I've had German Shepherds, Goldens and cats - I like my house orderly and clean, but if there are hairs (which of course there are always hairs), then I just do my best... I love my animals.

I do worry about how much time he will spend with the male but they do get along - he likes when my husband spins him on the floor in the mornings (weird..) and looks forward to that everyday. Times like when he has this turn of the head, etc. to tell me he wants to go on the screened porch, stuff like that - my husband would never pick up on..

Okay - I can't worry - Thanks for your support

Carrie

Cats are more attached to their homes than their people. So I think you're doing the right thing by leaving kitty home. As long as there are people around to feed him he'll be fine. It will be harder on you :)

Thanks, cynthia He's so sweet. My husband and I have Iphones with the "face-time" feature.

He is going to call me and show him me on the phone - He can hear me and see me moving and I will be able to say all the usual stuff only I say to him - LOL

PS My son will also come to visit to add more people for them to see.

We went away once and left my 19 year old son to take care of the dog and the Siamese cat. We were only gone a few days to the shore, but when we got home, the cat's black face had turned grey!! I could not believe it, but then it went to black again. I know just how you feel. I have a relationship like that with one of my four cats. I love her to pieces and know she would miss me. I'm sure yours will do fine.

Did anyone ever tell you why her face changed color? I had never heard that before.

Ours is black with white collar and white paws and the sweetest, precious animal I've ever had... (although all animals are precious). I will tell my husband about your experience. Strange..

Carrie

I think it was stress. My son didn't give Simon the attention I gave him, but he recovered quickly and lived to 21.

OMG, 21? How wonderful for you!

Thanks for the information. I will tell my husband to pay extra attention to our boy... We practiced with the IPhone and not sure if that would freak him out! LOL Seeing his "mom" inside a phone may really confuse him.... :0)

Carrie

Hi Carrie, i know exactly how you feel, i have a dog who's 17yrs and shes my shadow and i take her everywhere i go and shes stuck to me at the hip when im at home so i have been through your situation a few times... I had to think of a way so she would not miss me as much and what i did approx 3wks prior to leaving on vacation i thought of a way to get her ready for mommy not being here for awhile, first i left her alone alot, i wouldnt let her sit on me as often at home nor did i take her out like i did all the time, i felt bad but i was not doing her a favour had i not done this...my dad comes down to babysit her while were away, however interesting enough this time my dad said my gosh what did u do, she did not whine or cry at night at all, and that he could not believe how well she did, she even ate her food...shocking...but i had to do something casue i was thinking of cancelling our trips cause i didnt want to leave her, shes a little pom whos the cutest little thing and luvs to be held and petted, i do spoil her i must admit but what can u do when that cute face looks at you...so maybe try some of those things i did and apparently it worked out great!! but we all know all animals r different..hoping this little advice may help..let me know how she does...good luck and im sure she will be fine especially your huby will be there so that helps big time....have fun on your trip....

hummerbabe... Great minds think alike! LOL

I DID try and not pay as much attention to him (easier actually with cats than dogs)... Problem is I started thinking maybe he would think I was sick or something. Like I would walk by him instead of cuddling every time I passed him, stuff like that. This was very hard to do as I love him so much.

Then I thought, no... I need to sit down and have a talk with him. I explained to him that I will be back, etc.etc.
It was a great talk. Yep, we had a nice "chat".....

LOL LOL.... Now if life were really like that, what a world it would be...

I enjoyed your post. Thank you

Carrie

Cats are very scent-oriented. Wear a soft t-shirt for a couple of nights, and leave it in the cat's favorite sleeping place as a security blanket.

Leave EXPLICIT written instructions for your husband.