any suggestion for a white paint color that's not too "yellow" ? thank you!

Thank you Ill try that! :)

Another good one is BM China White - it has a grey undertone and very calming. I love it..

Thank you for another one to consider... That helps a lot!

You need to take the BM palette and find a white with the same undertones of your granite-the suggestion above for Swiss Coffee is probably correct. Monterey White could be nice too HC-27

Loving the idea of the Swiss Coffee!

I'm going to the BM store Monday....will take all suggestions and let you know how it's going . I feel so much better now... Picking the "white" for these cabinets has truly turned into a nightmare...thanks so much for giving me some support & direction! I plan on posting the finished pic next week or so.

Just make sure that the white you choose for your cabinets is either the same or lighter than the color of the subway tile on your backsplash. A brighter white on the tile can make the cabinet white look dingy or yellow in contrast. So put the samples next to your tile when you are choosing.