Can you repost this in "design dilemma" as more Houzzers will see it.

Sorry I too don't see anything feminine about the room. (Honestly I think it looks more masculine than feminine, but mostly neutral). Ask your husband specifically what he doesn't like, then work with him to find other alternatives. It isn't up to you and guess, this should be a joint effort, and especially if he is the one who is unhappy, he should take the lead in suggesting changes.

i have been thinking ab out it. maybe if you put a frilly pillow on your side, he will think the rest looks less effeminate, because i sure don't see it either.

1. I think you need to cut into the white expanses - try a thick, dark set of pulls on the nightstands-
   
   A lamp set w stronger presence-
   

   Kenroy 20138ORB Logan 2-Pack Table Lamp · More Info
   and some textured accessories to break up the fabrics:
   

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   I chose neutral toned examples, but they needn't be :
   

   Urban Designs Red Mosaic Cracked Glass 25" Table Lamp, Set of 2 · More Info
   
   
   

   Pillow Decor - Monroe Velvet Stripes 22 x 22 Green Throw Pillow · More Info

Yes, i think that might help? maybe he translates white into feminine? I don't know the cost of above but here are some others, no white night stand. for one side.

Better Homes and Gardens X-Leg Accent Table with Drawer, Multiple Colors - Walma · More Info

Modern Decorative Pillows - Size: 18" Square | AllModern · More Info

Decorative Pillows & Accent Pillows | Wayfair · More Info

Table Lamps, Desk Lamps and Bedside Lamps | Pier 1 Imports · More Info

Gilded Oval Lamp - Copper | Pier 1 Imports · More Info

Adesso Lloyd Table Lamp - Table Lamps at Hayneedle · More Info