Sounds like nickel, brass, or ORB would work!

Putting it together.

Here it is with the gun metal:

With antique brass:

With satin nickel:

I think the nickel looks kind of anemic. I like both the brass and the gun metal, but prefer the warmth of the brass, especially since your other color run cool.

You all are so helpful!! The backslash will be white.... does that make a difference. I guess it is time to go back to the drawing board with the lighting.... It helps so much to see it together.

So I have been searching and found this

https://www.build.com/hinkley-lighting-4323/s1283647 for over the kitchen table

for over the sink (2)

https://www.build.com/hinkley-lighting-4937-pendant-light/s948785

https://www.build.com/hinkley-lighting-3641-ceiling-light/s847948?uid=3051315

It will go with all of the brass in the house and the original brass light fixture in the dining room. My husband is leaning towards the gunmetal pulls still but I think it will tie together and the stainless faucet will match the appliances... or I can make that brass too.... what do you think!

Sorry, I saw the part about the gray grout but totally missed that the backsplash tile would be white (need to read more carefully). Though I quite like the gray...

Here it is again with the brass Hinkley fixtures. I couldn't find a pic of the tile in white.

I appreciate your help! That looks better no? It does warm it up a bit and it will tie into the rest of the house.

I love the brass for lighting. I think you should go chrome for hardware.

I just finished my kitchen with white shaker cabinets, black counters, wood floors and white tile with grey grout backsplash. we went with very dark, pretty much black, ORB handles. I didn't want to bring any warm colored metal in because I also have stainless appliances and my counter has blue flecks in it, so I thought adding warmth with the hardware would be too much. However, I like the brass examples that were posted for you and agree that the nickel looks too bland. I'd go brass or dark.

the work guys are actually back finishing up, then I will have better photos. we are putting wood shelves up by the range hood to bring a little warmth there, but here's what we have now. I was debating nickel, stainless or black handles and I'm very happy that we went with the black/orb.

aren't the details the hardest?! I had the hardest time at the end.

Do you have any photos of your kitchen and home so we can advise you on lighting? When you say kitchen table, is it an eat-in kitchen?

So sorry I haven't responded. The contractor was supposed to start demo next week but called on Monday morning and started yesterday. I had to empty out my entire bedroom and closet (also getting the master bath redone). Kitchen demo is next week. Thank you so much for pictures of your kitchen. That is very much the look we are going for.

mayflowers- We are putting a small table with 2 chairs in a little eat in area with the chandelier. I am thinking mainly HW and coffee. Here are some pics of the rest of the house. It is a super traditional center hall colonial.

I didn't include pics of furniture since it is all getting replaced after the reno.

Current kitchen. The pendants will go over the window. The semi flush mount where that track lighting is and the chandelier where the lovely silver fixture is ;). Cabinets and fridge will be in the portion of the room you can't see and the eat in area is under the light and a little to the right.