You may want to contact your local law enforcement and inquire about a no trespassing order. Sounds drastic, but your privacy is being invaded and no one of any authority seems to care. Also, set up a camera to document any trespasses.

Sounds like this kid needs some help & (perhaps tough) love. I'm a firm believer that we are placed where we are at a certain time for a purpose - maybe this is yours right now?

Dbrad- what is it you expect me and my family to do?

Oh I don't have anything specific in mind - just feel the kid out for what he's missing. Is his dad around much? If not, perhaps include him the next time your husband does an activity with the kids.

Invite him over for a family movie night where the kids dress up as their favorite Marvel character and watch the new lego batman movie or something.

If your kids are older than him, explain all of this to them - that you are trying to reach out as a family and love someone that needs it.

Right now this kid sees you as just the new people that live in the house next door - a house he's no doubt spent quite a few years growing up in/around since his family members previously owned it. And if he's saying stuff like that when you try to correct him, he's not being taught properly at home to respect others. Loving the kid could improve his opinion of you and give him reason to listen to you in the future - after all, you're the family that let's him do cool stuff! Once you've built some rapport, your husband can let him know your basic house rules and he'll be more likely to obey them.

Just thinking out loud - not trying to criticize or guilt you into helping the kid, especially since you've been nice to him already. I've just seen kids like that who seem to respond well to love and inclusion. Your own kids will benefit too - not just from helping him themselves, but also from watching their parents modeling how to reach out to others.

I would be concerned that a 5 yr old is totally unsupervised. He's in your garage that probably is not child-proof and could be walking on the roads! This is a police and/or child services matter. I would tell the neighbors that the next time the 5 YO appears on your property uninvited and unsupervised, you will be calling the authorities.

If you really want to stop him from coming over scare the hell out of him make him afraid of your house. He 5 should be easy. Tell him monsters live under the beds and eat children for dinner maybe witches in the attic. May not win you brownie points in neighborhood, would solve problem of kid coming over.

If he is hurt on your property, they will hold you liable. Lock your doors. If he knocks, either ignore him or tell him he needs to go home and/or call your neighbor's house and tell them to come and get him. You should be able to enjoy your own property without an uninvited smart mouth pest. If they complain that they used to live there, remind them that it is now your property and ask them if they would like to make your mortgage payments or pay your homeowners taxes. Build a nice solid fence as soon as you can afford it without a gate between the properties.

Dbrad- This child, Jaxson, has a mother and great grandmother he lives with. He visits his father on the weekends. He has a wonderful grandmother Kim and her husband who does everything for this kid. He doesn't go without. He has plenty of adults in his life but it seems none teach his respect or manners. I've been friends with Kim for years and trust me, this bothered me a lot to have to say we don't want him coming over to our home anymore. They think he does no wrong. It's not my or my husband's responsibility to parent this child when he has parents and grandparents. We were very kind to this child in the beginning and were taken advantage of like we were a free babysitter or something. Without warning, he would come through our door and no one would come to check on him for hours. He was included when my children played, ate, drank and swam. We had family visiting from 12 hours away. My kids wanted to play with their cousins they see like three times a year and this kid still hung around after I asked him to go home because he was being mean. He stood at the end of my deck and watched us. So please take that guilt trip elsewhere. And the little boy still talks to us all. He's oblivious that he's even done anything wrong. We are nice to him as well. We are not mean to kids but we had had enough. It's our home and we would like to enjoy it with our children.

Nel smith- He would be unsupervised quite a bit. We live in the country so it's back roads but still. I don't let my kids out of the yard. His grandmother Kim says she's had to hire babysitters for the kid cause the mother won't watch him. I think it's a child services matter also but everyone in their family seems to think it's no big deal and we are the bad guy for not wanting him at our home every single day.

Aardvark411- I have locked all doors and closed garage doors before. We had got back about 8:00 pm from an all day trip and was ready for bed. He banged on every door for atleast 10-15 minutes. I watched it all on my security cameras. It was a total of about 30 minutes before he went home throwing a tantrum. His mom actually came and got him cause she heard his tantrum.

He may have mental issues. I wouldn't "scare the hell out of him"......Sounds like you need to have a grown up chat with whoever is responsible for him. And save up for that fence!

It sounds to me like the "mental issues" are with the parents. Lazy parents & lack of discipline! Poor kid. But he's not YOUR responsibility!

As stated by aadvark, if he is hurt on your property, you'll be held responsible.

Every time he showed up on my property uninvited, I'd call them to come fetch him.

I'd put my own lock on the gate, and I'd keep all my doors locked. And in all honesty, I'd not invite the tot over. Every time he knocked on my door, I'd answer and tell him "No you cannot come in. NO you cannot come over. Go Home." He's already demonstrated he doesn't know what boundaries are (again, the parents fault.)

You've been very patient with the situation and they've mistaken that for compliance. Being patient isn't bad, but they're taking advantage of you.

Good luck!

PennyDesign- I've had to have a chat with his grandmother (who makes excuses for his behavior) and his great grandmother (who got mad at me). His mother is too immature to have a conversation. I tried to talk to her about it in the beginning and she walked into her great grandmothers house and then called her mommy and told her what I said. It's her child, not her mother's child.

Pudgeder- Absolutely, lazy parenting! The mother could really care less. I realized that when he would be at my home for hours and she would never come to check on him. Thank you for understanding that I was truly patient with this kid, and still am. Our privacy fence will be going up when the weather cools off because it's still so hot here. And it's about 350 feet of fence to put up just on that side.

I really feel for you, Luckycharm. I have a similar experience with a child who visits our lake cottage and I am so thankful I don't see her on a daily basis. In her case, I'll call her Sally, I know she didn't win the mommy lottery and I really try to empathize with her. What I think is similar is that she and probably Jax, too, have too many authority figures in their life without the benefit of a strong mother. Sally has a grandpa that she lives with most of the time, an aunt she sees a lot, after school care, girl scout leaders, church group leaders, school teachers and a large extended family. In a good month she might see her mother and her newborn half brother twice. So I feel her pain but don't feel like I can discipline her effectively when I see her about twice a month.

I really like MY boys suggestion to put your own lock on your side of the gate. Speaks volumes without words. Don't let it escalate into a war. Go about the business of enjoying your space without feeling you have to do anything for Jax. He doesn't need more cooks stirring the pot. He needs his mother. Let them figure it out, hopefully sooner than later.