i'm not sure what you mean by "she jumps out". can you be more specific?

also, more information would help. how old is your "old dog"? how long have you had her? is she old enough to perhaps have issues with pain from arthritis or some other chronic inflammation?

just because her tail is wagging doesn't necessarily meant it's a "happy" wag.

My only experience is with introducing one cat to a kitten, and a cat (several years old at the time of introduction) to a 4 month old puppy. They eventually stopped hissing and aggressively going after each other in the first situation, and in the second one, the puppy had limited access to the upstairs area where the cat preferred to hang out and had her litter box in the bathroom. Over time the cat and puppy/dog adjusted, the dog was fairly submissive to the cat which probably helped things.

Give the older dog space of her own to get away from the new member of the household. Puppies and young dogs have a lot more energy and can get overwhelming to older dogs in the house. If you notice that one or the other is acting defensive over food, or making it impossible for the other to eat the food in their bowl, you may have to feed them in separate parts of the house.

She's not really old just a year old and the puppy likes to cha her amd it seemed lik she's avoiding tgethe puppy but when it isn't looking our older dog smells her from beh and my older dog doesn't bully o fight the puppy she just barks at him when he chases the older one and the older isn't that protective of its food sometimes the puppy wo be hungry and smell the other one's bowl but she just watches

since you have already realized that your method of introduction wasn't the most positive, what's done is done but it doesn't sound like there is true aggression from the older dog.

the best way to get them to bond is to walk them together as many times as possible. just do lots of short walks, 15-20 minutes several times a day. they will start to become friends doing something enjoyable for them.

young puppies have what i like to call a "puppy license" in that older dogs will let them get away with things that they would take offense at if an adult dog did. things like chasing, nipping, stealing toys/food. they have this license for 9-12 months. once the puppy reaches that age, they are considered to be adult by the other dog.

even though the older dog just watches the puppy around the food bowl, this should be stopped immediately. do NOT let the puppy approach the older dog's food EVER. eventually, the older dog may decide this is not acceptable and you will have a dog fight on your hands.

if you have high value treats or toys that your dogs have access to, supervise ALL play to make sure neither the older dog or the puppy becomes possessive of any certain thing. it's best to put high value treats/toys away and let them have access to just a couple of things. you can switch these things out every day or multiple times a day just to keep things interesting/fun for the dogs.

another thing is that both dogs should have their own sleeping spot. whether it's crates or just dog beds on the floor, each dog needs to learn which spot in their spot and no mixing. older dog gets *this* bed, puppy gets *this* bed. period!

if your puppy is extra hyper and playful, make sure your older dog has a place where it can go to escape the puppy nonsense for a peaceful nap. :)

LOL, annz, you and i think alike and posted at the same time. :D

Thank you so much for the advice! It really is helpful also we're trying to give our older dog more attention than before

if we are talking small breeds that could be part of it. i have a tenerife, bichon/poodle/who knows? anyway he is a medical dog, because he does one thing very well and applies it to me very well. he notices anything that changes in his environment, and they all send him barking in histerics. so in my case, he will notice when my machine quits or when things beep or when he hears air hissing out. and shortly after everyone else knows. when little beings run around him, he will get nervous and his reaction will depend on the rules. with my grandchild move around he would bark as he ran by then shivered at my feet, because he knew it was a baby and he would do nothing to hurt a baby. but by the end of the 4 days, he did manage to lick the baby's toes. now son has a chihuahua.. that dog kept attacking my dog everytime he saw him.