To begin with you have done this backwards . Wall color comes last and cream and whites are difficult to have work together.I think I would leave the cabinets and spend the money on a counter depth fridge and new lighting all in LEDs 4000K the fixture above the table IMO is not good and neither are the fake roman shades

I would leave the cabinets in the wood finish - they blend the rest of your kitchen colors together. and I don't think they look dated. Instead, I'd update your valences with roman shades, change out the fixture above the table, and replace the hardware on your cabinets. A counter-depth stainless refrigerator would definitely change the "look" of the space!

The desk should have gotten a new counter and backsplash, too. I would change the window treatments to something with a nicer color, add a new light fixture over the table (that one lights the ceiling more than the table), and start looking at new appliances in stainless steel. I also like runner rugs in the kitchen where I stand to work....colorful runners. The cabinets appear to be in good shape and the color is not bad. When looking at runners, if you do, select a multicolor which includes the gray of your backsplash and the cream of your counter to help them work together.

Thank you experts, all valuable comments, lot of comments on Valences, I have no idea what I should do there, do you have a pic to help me visualize

And if I leave the cabinet in wood finish how do I make it look newer, it’s not looking clear in the pic but when you see closely it looks like it needs a face lift

I just changed the appliances 😕, don’t have money to update but will change the fixtures and hardware

Start over by finishing what you started. Then add lighting. Then leave the wood alone.