"Would still love exterior ideas on this."
That is what the architect is for. When I see poor design, I recommend engaging an architect. You may not want to hear it, but it is the best advice you have received so far, and I am not the only one that knows it. You have good reason to be freaked out. I do not say this to be hurtful, I say it because I want you to truly love your house and when you go to sell it I do not want you to have a forever house because you can't sell it. A local architect will be able to determine your needs and wants, analyze where you are in the process, and spend the time to fix what you have; hopefully in a timely manner. Nobody here has what it take to properly come up with a solution for you, they will just throw out random ideas to see if you bite.
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love these doors to replace the french doors in the living room, and the sliding doors in the hallway and primary bedroom
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