marie_of_roumania,

If you wish to contact someone here, you could try going to that individuals MY PAGE. There you will find a place to send an email in which you could educate that person on the fine points of netiquette.

OR you could make a general statement about bumping if you feel the need to educate us all, without naming names. It would be a kindness. Get it?????

um, just a suggestion.

PattiOh

Thank you, PattiOh, what a wonderful thought!

Marie_of_Roumania, It seems this is your first post here at the cottage. And so I wish you welcome. But please dear, leave your Landscaping forum manners at the gate. We would love to see your cottage garden photos, we adore photos! Feel free to post them in our gallery for all to admire.

Long time member and much loved, Sweet Mora, we question not, your motives.

MeMo

Good grief! This is not a nice way to start the day. I first read Kent's fun post about weeds and his coming chickens which was nice. Then I read this one and it is an 'attack' on Mora, by someone new.

This is not the way to win friends and influence people.

I see nothing wrong with bumped threads as sometimes it is something I missed, or may be even something I've been looking for, or it was interesting to begin with. I have not noticed that many bumped threads in this forum at all.

marie_of_roumania - If you wish to be a part of the friendly 'family' here, then try a little kindness and tact.

Do you have cottage gardens? Like Memo said, we would love to see pictures and we would love to hear what you are growing. We love pictures as they are inspiring, and we love talking about our plants, etc.

FlowerLady

""Thread bumping is commonly considered a breach of netiquette and some moderated forums forbid it ... Bumping old or inactive ('dead') threads is occasionally called 'necroposting,' and the bumping posts referred to as 'frankenposts.'" ---wikipedia"

This is not a moderated forum. Hasn't been since Spike sold the farm. The threads bumped were not old or inactive, therefore no necroposting. Also, serious researchers do not consider wikipedia a reliable source of info. There are loads of errors at that site.

"a case can certainly be made for bumping particular threads -- e.g., if you started the thread & you're asking for identification of a plant or pest & assistance isn't forthcoming. But you're just bumping stuff willy-nilly to make the forum look the way you want it to."

Willy nilly? This is an assumption lacking valid proof.

"so, um, please cut it out?"

Cut it out? That phrase is a bit hypocritical in lieu of your stance on netiquette.

"thanks."

For what? You weren't appointed the cottage forum netiquette sheriff so you'll excuse us if we don't say you're welcome.

This is just my two cents for whatever it is or isn't worth...but PERSONALLY I think that anyone who has nothing better to do that gripe or correct others on the internet for heaven's sakes..needs a life....after all..this is JUST the internet..you can choose to be here...or to not..to read or to not..and honestly...to BUMP or to not....

There is much more to life than whether someone "bumped" and bugged you....my two cents....find a life with something real to gripe at...not just a petty inconvience.

Bump...oops,sorry. LOL!!

LOL!!!

Dang, seems like we've had some nasty posts lately, and they have been directed as some of the most wonderful and knowledgeable people on this forum. I love this place- feel like I have lots of gardening friends- and you guys are always sharing kind and loving advice, not to mention seeds. From day one everyone has been very welcoming. I hate to think that would change.

I for one vote for no nasty posts. Too much unkindness in the world already- there is no room for it here.
xoxo

Sending happy, cheerful thoughts to all my cottage garden
friends.

(could the first post just be a troll?)

Okay, for my part, when I saw that FlowerLady, of ALL people, would actually lift one of her fingers to type in a chastisment, I felt terrible myself. And, sadly, the original poster wouldn't know how rare and terrible such a chastisement is, I assume. I think most of us knew why the bumping was done and saw no need to say anything since it was certainly for a good cause.

Although, I did get to learn 'necroposting', so there is a sort of silver lining. Sounds like zombie mail.

I was hoping this thread would just go away. Mora was doing me a favor by bumping my post away. Her heart was in the right place and I thank her for her good intentions.

Bless all of you, my Cottage buddies, for coming to the aid of one of our fellows.

Love you, Mora!

Flowerangel...you crack me up! I hope you stick around.

Thanks Edna
I'm here everyday...I just don't post very often...I just soak it all in. This time I just couldn't resist. Just my sense of humor. I love you cottage garden people...you brighten my day!!

You guys crack me up, LOL! And you definitely have your hearts in the right place. It's a privilege to come back here day in, day out, and we plan to keep it that way. Some other people need to get a life.

Eduarda

Oh, that's just not nice at all! Just ignore this nasty post, mora. WE don't care if you bump away. Some people have nerve (but not manners).

I'm glad we have so much good-will and humour here;)

slubberdegulion ~ At first I felt bad reading your post, then the more I read, I cracked up. I don't usually say things, but this time I felt compelled to because someone nice was being attacked for such a stupid, petty thing. Sheesh!

Life really is short, and we have so little time to do all the things we really want to do, that having to deal with petty stuff, really rankles.

Anyway, enough 'chastisement' from me. I'll go back to my gardening, baking, cooking, needlework.

Have a nice evening everyone. We are having a 'greek' pizza tonight. The dough is making in the bread machine. Green pepper strips, sliced Greek olives, and feta cheese will top the crust. This will be the first time for me making it. Hope it is good. With a glass or two of wine, I will mellow out.

FlowerLady

I swore I wouldn't respond to this post but here it is at the top soooooo I just want to say that I have never felt so ...well you know... that Sally Field thing LOL...and to that poor chap I so heartlessly bumped (((((willy nilly))))
Martha

bump, oops...sorry

bumpity bumpity sat on a wall, bumpity bumpity had a great fall and the cottage gardeners........

"bumpity bumpity sat on a wall, bumpity bumpity had a great fall and the cottage gardeners........"

sang willy nilly, willy nilly all the way to Mora's sweet place, where she served us tea and scones and invited us to sit in her lupine filled gardens . . . : )

Oooohhh! Mora, I want to see photos of your lupines.
They are so gorgeous and I can't grow them to save my life.

......whilest all of us took turns sitting in the Dory.

I can't keep up here,LOL...This is for Threeorangeboys...

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oh those lupines! I am just green with envy!!

Flowerlady, you are too funny Lol

I post with marie quite often in another forum, and I have to say, I am really suprised by this post...did I miss something?

The lupines are so beautiful--what a picture! And I am glad someone finally said something positive about Marie of Roumania. No, her post was not a great idea--in fact it was a really bad idea--especially for a first post on this forum. But (and I don't know her except thru her posts on GW) she really is a good gardener and seems so nice on other forums. We've all made a mistake here and there so maybe it would be a good idea to show what good folks are here at the Cottage Garden by moving on. The point has been made.

Mora - those lupines are to die for - how very very gorgeous - thank you so much for sharing them with us and thanks threeorangeboys for requesting. I never get tired of seeing other sucessful gardens. I can't grow lupines here and like delphiniums have to view and enjoy them through another's garden......

Lynne

There is lots of room in the dory for Marie and dear Nell as well...please come on back ladies...nuf is enuf...Martha

Mora, how do you keep those lupines so glorious and aphidless? The one time I tried growing a single lupine (which became known as the plant that ate New York -- I had no *idea* they got that big -- 4' tall by 3' wide), I wound up with enough aphids to populate a whole rose garden.

Hosing them off or doing the dish soap thing would have been spitting in the wind, they were so bad.

I love them, I do -- we have a wild variety around here that is dropdead gorgeous, but I really don't like aphids...

Ohmygosh ... they get aphids, too?

Hi all. Mora, your lupines are beautiful! As a matter of fact, everything looks so lush and green! Our hot and humid weather is a bit hard on them, but I'm trying anyway, hoping the seeds started last year will produce flowers this year.

Delphiniums don't do well here, either (again, the heat and humidity along the New Jersey shore) - I've tried and failed miserably, but have heard larkspur are a nice alternative, so picked up some seed while at Jefferson's Monticello in Virginia and will see how they do.

Diane

The best way to deal with aphids is ladybugs. A friend gave me a bag containing hundreds two years ago and they are now established in the garden.
I wish the lupins would bloom like this every year like they do in the wild. Fingers crossed for this year, M

Of course we welcome Marie and Nell. We're just having a bit of fun and mean no harm. Many of us have been here a long time and have developed a close sense of community so we get rather protective of one another. But there's always room at the Cottage so please accept my apology if I've been offensive. Two wrongs don't make a right.

Now about those lupines - I'm going to grow some if it's the last thing I do on this earth. They and those elusive blue poppies just make my heart go pitter pat. Thanks for the pic, Mora! : )

Diana

Certainly we'd be glad to hear from Marie and Nell and anyone else who has stepped on toes or had toes stepped on. I'm always saying something I shouldn't and have been lucky that you've all been tolerant of my weird sense of humor SO FAR.

Martha, I have never, EVER seen a bed of lupines as lovely as yours. They are simply scrumptious!

Patti

*tears in my eyes* I can't grow Lupines *sniffle* I've tried for three years straight. Mine get a white/gray powder all over the leaves and never bloom.

Arroyo Lupine grows wild up here. During the spring the hills are covered with them and wild Mustard.

Lupines don't grow here well either, but my dear friend Carmen, a 90 year old gardener up in Canada grows a FEILD of lupines, peonies and certain dwarf iris I can't grow here. It's nice to be able to see them still, once and while.
Your lupines are gorgeous, Mora.

GGG

Mora, those Lupines are awesome. As an aside to what you said about the ladybugs, my dad built a radio controlled cropduster with a large hopper built into it -- the hopper could be controlled from the radio control gizmo. Ladybugs, if grown from from larvae will stick close to where they're "hatched," so he mixed a batch of larvae with sawdust and dusted a friend's organic vineyard, flying up and down the rows. lol

Nancy

Oh my God Mora- That is insanely beautiful. I can't grow them at all- I just assumed it was the humidity? They just wilt and die. The one year they did grow, they never came back. do you have a secret? Where are you? Do you have humid summers?
I agree about the ladybugs. My clematis paniculata was COVERED in them one year and I thought it was a goner. I noticed these wierd black and orange things on it as well and thought, great! Now I have another pest! After squishing some of them, I figured I should look them up and found out to my horror that I had been killing ladybug larve. GOOD GOOD lesson for me not to kill anything until I know it is harmful for sure. I have felt awful about that ever since.
Since that summer, the aphids come and are followed soon there after by the ladybugs. I just let them go at it, and they always clean the aphids off. One summer, I actually watched a lady bug eat several of the aphids- could see her put them right in her mouth. Very funky and cool. The paniculata is now so huge it is taking over the garden and a tree.

Sarah

Martha,

I'm lupine-challenged as well, so your pictures are real eye candy for me.

Do they bloom all summer like that? They look so beautiful in that setting. :-)

Marilyn