It’s not bad. Leave it up. . I think you are focused on the light because nothing else is in the room. Try getting a rug under the table, drapes on the windows and a buffet server or bigger artwork.

Once you buy the buffet, think about adding mercury type glass lamps or other shiny objects.

The fixture is hanging too high--should be about 30" above tabletop, but live with it for a while. Instead look for a much bigger, bolder, edgier painting in silvers, tans, and possibly and accent color. A rug, as suggested, and drapes would really do a lot for the room, and I think you'd wind up loving your lights.

It wouldn't have been my choice and I understand why you don't care for it now that it's up. Why don't you think West Elm will take it back? They are usually very good about returns. I'd take it down and replace it with something else--it's always going to bother you so take your loss now. Maybe be real nice to hubby and re-install the original one, or wait until you and your husband can agree on a new one.

ugh. the sad thing is, they look sooo pretty in pretty much every review photo I've seen! I don't know why it sucks so much here :( we couldn't get them installed for a while so it's been longer than their 30 day return policy, though I suppose if I ask they may still take it back. I'd need to pay someone again to take it down though :(

If you do like it, might there be a smaller space for it: eating nook, pendant, high ceiling in hall?

I'm not pro -- Idk if there's room, or right color, but if you'd go transitional further:

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If you want, add another one. Adjust the ceiling thing?

Add curtains to reduce glare/ shine on it?

Not a pro either but like the ideas of the mercury lamps, colored buffet. Fun rug and curtains and then it won’t be focal point. Need some pro ideas to tie it all together.

Have you tried contacting West Elm about exchanging just the glass shades? I see they offer that chandelier with clear glass; wondering whether you can just exchange that part? If you have original packaging of course you can just take this one down, repackage and return. You can put the original back up yourself (or buy/install another)--no need to get DH or an electrician involved at all. Plenty of DIY sites and youtube videos that guide you through light installation. Just make sure you completely shut the power off at the circuit board--everything else just requires a ladder, a screwdriver, and desperation to learn :) I have installed all of my replacement lights, dimmer switches, new plugs/plates, etc. with nothing more than the original circuit knowledge from middle school science class and google.

I don't mind them. I just think the rest of the room is lacking a bit. a larger table,(that one you have too small for that area) a rug, some other mercury glass elements, maybe a tall plant in the corner...it would look great.

while your art piece on the wall is cute, it's far too small for that area. (and it's not centered w/the table.) that's a huge wall and it needs a much larger piece, or a grouping of art for it to work.

That's one of the main reasons you think your light stands out is because everything else around it is too small.

bring in a larger rectangle table,,,something w/metal like this would work well w/the lights too. If you love the light, then try some of these other fixes. If not, see if west elm will do a return or exchange. (but that artwork is still going to be too small on that wall!)

I dont mind it either and agree w comments saying you can design the rest of the room so that you love it. BUT I also completely agree w chocolatesnap— you can get it down yourself for free if you’d like! and you’ll feel super empowered re: all light fixtures in the future :) and yes— see if West Elm will accept the return! Or at least an exchange/store credit.

I would move the chandelier to the one corner of the room where the eye catches when you first walk in. I'd replace your current painting with something more rectangular (if you have an existing one else where in the house maybe swap them out?). You also need a buffet. Zgallery has a beautiful mirrored one that would spruce up your space! https://www.zgallerie.com/p-1341-borghese-mirrored-buffet.aspx

This room has the upper levels that 'enclose' the slender light.... does your entire room have this effect at all? idk...

It's not too fancy but not that bad, but in my opinion the room needs some touch of vibrant color, try a larger wall art, a vase, a buffet with some decor items and elegant sheer drapers, maybe even paint one wall in a different color...

By the way, I have to say you made me laughing with your description :)

Good luck!

I totally understand. I fell in love with a chandelier from pottery barn and then hated it in my house. Luckily I installed it and took it down and was able to return it. If you have a tall ladder, it's not that hard to change out. I do agree, it doesn't look like it fits your house. I think if you go with a more modern traditional candelabra chandelier or something maybe with wood in it, it would still fit your style and match with the house. We've made some pretty $$ oops before. You may have to fess up to your husband if you can't live with it. Call the store too to see if you can return it. It is a nice fixture, but just doesn't quite work here.