You should wait until the cabinets, countertops and flooring are in place before picking backsplash. It's very difficult to choose a backsplash for a vertical surface based on a slab that will be horizontal and in a kitchen with lighting that will be different than a showroom or stone yard.

In my opinion, the more rustic looking glazed tiles are too white for the counter, and they don't coordinate well with the style of the herringbone. I'd stick with one backsplash and forget the kitschy contrasting tile.

Please don't take this too harshly, because I think you are right in asking for help. I don't think your fixtures coordinate either. Yes, they're all brushed brass but the styles vary from modern to farmhouse to a faucet that's even described in the name as "Georgian." What look are you going for? Do you have any inspiration photos? I'm sure you'll get some feedback but we need to understand the overall look you're going for to be able to help you get there.

Love everything but herringbone

I totally agree no backsplash choice until counters are in flooring should be the first item since best to put cabinets on top of flooring for a nice clean look, I never think a fancy tile piece behind a stove works except in huge Tuscan kitchens and preferably in Tuscany all the rest look over done. I also do not like the choice of tile for the star backsplash. I also agree you need to decide on a style right now these choices are all over the map. Forget the drip edge and I would rethink open shelving in a kitchen.IMO the tile in the first pick does not work with the counter or the herringbone tile you think you want.