Scissors disappear into the "man world", he throws out every potato peeler he uses (yes he does like to cook which makes up for a lot), he also throws out our utensils when we clean up the table, he cannot understand the concept of the round pegs going into the round hole, so he will load the dishwasher with his dirty plates in a completely random way. He calls me the dishwasher Nazi but it is so much easier to load the utensils with spoons with spoons, forks with forks because it is much easier to unload that way, and I do the unloading. Of course never knows where anything is, but the biggest pet peeve is that NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES I ASK, "When you see something at the top of the stairs that means it has to go downstairs, when something is at the bottom of the stairs, it has to go up." I am talking about things that are too heavy for me to carry to the point where I have to make 2 or 3 trips! How could you not see a huge basket of folded laundry and choose to step over it rather than carry it up?! But after 22 years of this nonsense, still love him ;)

I don't know how old your daughter is, but I finally sat my 4 down in the room & just had them look around & tell me what they saw! If they don't see the mess, they won't clean it. Then I told them what I saw. Opened their eyes at least somewhat!
If the open drawers are in her room, close her door & walk away! As long as vermin aren't involved, she gets to live in her own mess. If you keep your space picked up, she'll eventually learn what I it looks like, tho it may take a LONG time.
If she won't clean up after herself in the kitchen, quit cooking cooking for her!! Eat out, nuke a TV dinner, eat fresh fruit & veggies, use paper plates, whatever you need to do to keep yourself fed. When she runs out of plates/pans/utensils......well there they'll be, waiting for her to clean up after herself. She'll have SO much fun scrubbing off food that's been marinating for a week! If you absolutely have to clean to keep the bugs away, she loses kitchen privileges! Cleaning up is part of cooking. No clean = no cook! As long as you pick up after her, she'll keep letting you.
If she doesn't like the smell of bathroom cleaning products, maybe you can find some natural products that are less offensive. One of my kids is very sensitive to odors! A window squeegee for the tiles may help, but she will have to physically pick it up & use it. Turtle wax on the tiles once a month means water runs right off. And just wiping out the sink once a day goes a long way - no chemicals needed. Easier to keep it that way than to get it that way. Maybe it will occur to her after spending an hour scrubbing! I used to have my kids clean like mad for 10 minutes & then quit! I don't want to spend all day at it, either.
Sorry this is so long :-)

Zip your zippers and empty your pockets of tissues, used wadded up paper towels, golf tees, nails and misc items BEFORE you put your pants/jeans in the laundry. Why should a wife have to get jabbed by a nail or handle nasty used tissues before doing the laundry. Or having tissue pieces stuck to every wet piece of washed clothing because of a missed pocket search.....GRRRRRRRRRRRR!

I do have to say though . . . . That after more than 42 years together, my husband still opens the car door for me and still holds my hand everywhere we go. Those are habits I hope he never loses. :)

One my father could never explain... we didn't have a garage so the car was parked on the street, front passenger door in line with the sidewalk to the front door. Winter, summer, rain, shine... he would walk to that door then go around the front of the car, unlock, get in, then reach over to unlock the passenger door and rear door. I thought it exceedingly rude to leave mom standing there when he could have unlocked her door then gone around the front to get in. At least if you're riding in my car, I will unlock that door first; then go around and let myself in.

Lynringel, that's definitely a keeper :)

I loved this topic, and like to keep adding, it's a great way to let the steam out!

It seems to me that a lot of people's pet peeves are unnecessary. Toilet seat down? Solve it. Don't have a dog in the house. Kitty litter box? Again, animals belong outside. Laundry? Everyone does their own (regardless of the couture consequences) Flies in the house? Screens solve that problem every single time. I suppose you could add automatic door closers if flies are that big a deal for you. And really....getting bent because someone doesn't use a trash bag liner??? I don't use them. Ever. Something about gift wrapping garbage strikes me as ludicrous. When the can is nasty, rinse it out.
But mostly, try some patience and understanding. My standards are different than other people's standards. OK, so everyone judges. I can remember an older woman; poised, educated, accomplished and well traveled saying "She certainly keeps a clean house. I don't know how she does it, drinking like she does."!

why have an animal if it's always outside. that's just cruel.

There are different climates in the world. Houzz is international. Animals are kept outside in warmer climates. That is not cruel.

Some animals like it cold, too. Plus there's the freedom thing. Four walls aren't for everybody.

Especially for animals that were bred to work.

Builders! They build houses with crappy things you want to replace even before you even move in! Paper covered cabinets are my #1 pet peeve.

Builders who put in cheap fixtures/paper cabinets/cheap countertops in brand new homes. Hate, hate, HATE paper cabinets. You can't even paint them! (Cabinets with paper sides and wooden doors.) The best you can do is deal with them until you can replace them.

Counters. Wipe up after yourself and keep them clear when not in use. Please!!

PickyVicky: my house had a full nuclear meltdown over nails. I too was competently single for years. I did not need my various sizes of nails and my hammer taken to the lower level to be combined with husbands. Nuclear I tell you.

Why when you have a key holder rack ,do the keys not go there,but everywhere else and what is it with the fruit bowl why do keys ,pens and chargers belong in there?

Also when my teenage daughter used to leave her hardened food plates in the room ,I once put them IN the bed ,she stopped doing it after that

Also to do with men not finding things in cupboards there was a test done a while ago that shows that men look for the shape of an object in cupboard whereas women look for the name on the product ( I think) so if the shape of the margarine is not at the front of the cupboard it's not officially there

They are really out there. Fortunately I am not married to one of them.
A nice couple borrowed our summer cottage for a week. Since she is Mrs. Clean I wasn't concerned. When we arrived after they had left we found the outdoor grill immaculate, but we thought the house had been ransacked since every kitchen cabinet door and drawer were left open. Apparently she left before him, and he was responsible for locking up. Not serious but really funny.

Dishes belong in the dishwasher, not the sinks, not the counter. Our dishwasher is a no rinse model. Put your dishes in the dw!

I don't really have one I think? Hubby and I really share all the runnings of the household (honest - he's the greatest) and kids are gone. I feel lucky!

My husband leaves his dirty dishes around the house in the areas he has been in. Whether it's dirty coffee mugs, glasses caked with last night's milk, bowls caked with yesterday's ice cream, utensils... etc. His excuse is that he was "not going back to the kitchen right now". However, he can go back and forth from the kitchen 50 times and he will still leave his dirty utensils, glasses and whatnot to rot. I have started to place his dirty dished on the seat of his lazy boy thinking maybe if he sits on them, he will realize how long they have been there. No dice. He will just move them over and leave them for another three months. And yes, I can certainly pick them up... which I have multiple times. But at one point you get fed up of asking him and fed up of doing it. And that's just the dirty dishes... never mind his dirty socks and other dirty clothes left in places around the house. It's gross.

It may be time for paper plates/plastic utensils - and a large trash bag by everyplace he eats. Honestly, I'm surprised the creepy crawlies haven't taken up residence as a reminder! You of course being the grown up, get to use the good stuff. :-)

Tina, if I were you I'd file for divorce.

Husband refuses to hire anyone to do work. He was retired, now back to work again. "I'll cut down that tree. I'll resurface the driveway. Gotta clean those gutters!" Just hire someone!! They need work too!!!

My husband was raised in a household where mom did very little (except for being sick on the couch 24/7) so he had to cook/clean/maintain the house for the family. Because of this he is an excellent housekeeper. Even though I do the majority of the work, he isn't contributing to the mess. (for which I am extremely thankful). The only thing he does that really bothers me is......he screws on jar lids SO TIGHT that I can't open them. Its not like the ketchup is going to escape, why does the lid have to be cranked on as tight as he can possibly get it?? (sometimes he can't even undo it himself!)

Helenjoh, my mom's tactic was to attempt it herself after she'd asked Dad several times. He'd feel so guilty that he'd take over and get the job done! And we learned there are no man's or women's jobs. :-)

I love Houzz because it offers me the chance to dream of the chic, nuanced, perfectly appointed home I will probably never have. But I REALLY love it because it helps me groom, organize and improve the home I actually do have. Thank you!

1. Hubby says "we should do something about . . ." By "we", he means me. If I don't do it, it doesn't get done.
2. The floor is not a storage option. This is not a place to keep papers, bags, clothes, etc. PUT THEM AWAY.
3. Keeps clothes out to "wear again" but doesn't do it neatly, so they cannot be worn again. Just put it in the laundry, hon.
4. Dumps things on the floor right in the way of foot traffic. Not off to the side or in the back or on a shelf - right in the first place he comes to, in the middle of everything.
5. When I cook, I also clean up. When (if ever) he cooks, I also clean up.
6. Sometimes decides to be helpful, but doesn't ask first. Starts a project, not one I was ready for, doesn't finish, then I have to finish it on top of what I already had to do. Gets mad if I say, please don't do that, but I would love if you would do . . . and doesn't do anything.
7. When he can't find something, he'll say "where are we keeping xxx now?" Like I purposely change things around constantly to confuse him. Honey, it's in this drawer and has been for 10 years.
8. Doesn't push in chairs!
9. On rare occasions he uses the shed key, he doesn't put it back! I had to get new keys made and hide one because I was afraid he'd lose the last one and we wouldn't be able to get in the shed.
10. On rare occasions I'm out and ask him to feed the kids, when I get home everything is all over the kitchen. Nothing put away, nothing cleaned up. Thanks.

He does, however, go to work every day so that I can be home for the kids, so I really can't complain, but I still do! It's MY job to do the housework, but sheesh, do you have to make it so much harder?

My husband used to leave his clothes on the floor next to the bed. After years of picking them up and complaining, I put all his laundered and folded clothes in the same spot on the floor. When he saw this he asked in an irritated tone "What lesson is being taught here?" I nicely explained that for years I was trying to train him to pick up his clothes and he never learned to do it. Then it dawned on me that he had been trying to train me that the floor was where he wanted his clothes to be placed. I apologized for being so slow to learn, but that I had finally learned his lesson and would place all his clothes there from now on. He just nodded his head with lips pressed firmly together, turned around, put all his clothes away himself and never left his clothes on the floor again. Problem solved.

@stryker It's gross, but It's not grounds for divorce! I think there are other people's complaints on here that are WAY worse than my own!! ;) Plus I leave the cap off the toothpaste and he hates that!

@kshell1502 That's a really good idea!!

Tina, if you are happy, then I am happy with you.

clocks. I love my clocks! They do more than just tell time. They reassure me that I DO have time for that extra nibble, that last bit of coffee. They tell me that I'm on schedule, everything is happening when it should, and I'm where I should be, when I should be.
My husband hates them. He has a phone in his pocket that runs his life, beeps shrieks and squeaks to keep him on track. It is all he wants and needs.
Still, I love my clocks!

Hubby goes crazy making fires that are much to HOT in the winter. I walk around in a tank top & shorts sweating to death with the sliding doors open for some cool fresh air. We fight this battle every winter...all winter long. The poor guy has no body fat and is always cold but not me- I hate it any warmer than 71-72. It's the worst at night too when you are trying to sleep and sweating to death.

His and hers dishwashers...brilliant!

Water all over the mirrors! It looks like a rain squall has hit the bathroom every time my husband brushes his teeth.

I got married at 39, so for 19 years I lived alone. I love that my husband that leaves whiskers in the sink in the morning and his socks around the bedroom at night. Spotless homes are over rated...

My wife turns off lights, insisting it must save money even if it means dangerous journeys between rooms/through the hall with the possibility of of bumping into something and having a fall. We are both retired and, I think, vulnerable.

Seeing the kids and grandkids chuck dishes in the dishwasher without rinsing the gunk off first.
They then wonder why the filter gets clogged so often.

Buy a few LED bulbs, langlely. Tell her they cost almost nothing to keep on. It varies by watts, of course, but you could leave an LED bulb on 24 hours a day and spend only 12 or 13 bucks for the whole year.

Ha,ha so glad my man is a man

nozzle is a nice and good work Beacuse it's a large benefit to all

Never muzzle the nozzle.

Many of these issues can be solved with creative design. E.g. Self closing cabinet hinges eliminate open cabinet doors; the no slam toilet seats with cover are easy to close!

I don't visit people who request that you take your shoes off before entering. That person sounds like no fun at all. What if I step on something or ruin my nylons? My friend lost her expensive shoes at a party when someone stole them from a pile at the door. Humph!

I absolutely agree about the no shoes dictum (operates a lot in USA) - I groan, because my feet freeze on tiled floors, and even carpeting doesn't soften the pain of my plantar fasciitis. I try to carry soft slippers, heck, I've been known to travel in them if it's door to door car ride, but sometimes it's just not convenient. And I do hate the awful pile of shucked shoes outside.

My husband undresses like it's a strip show. one sock here, another there. Pants on the hook on the cupboard (he's not going to wear them again, but never mind) and shirt on the doorknob. And I find his underpants all over the place. Why not everything in the hamper in the bathroom??? Finally got him to put shirt and pants in the hamper, after much nagging, but socks and underpants still turn up all over.And never together.

And the toilet seat??? Well if I can find one in India, I will go for a soft-close. My sister has one...but I'm not sure I want to lug one all the way from England. But i do hate mopping up the sprinkles. Maybe I'll get one anyway, because my cleaner ALSO leaves the seat up. Just to show he cleaned, I guess.

Oh yes...he screws lids on really tight. If it's a bottle or jar that has been in the fridge I have to wait for it to warm up. Then I found I could warm them under the hot faucet. But it's an extra step... honey, don't tighten the lid. Just close it.

My husband does most of the cooking (he is a better cook than I), so I do not mind doing the clean up. It seems a fair trade to me. And as for dishes being loaded in the dishwasher, I am very particular about how the dw is loaded, so I am perfectly happy if people just bring their dishes to the kitchen sink for me to load. Of course, they don't always.

We do have our little annoyances, but on the whole, we work together quite well.

He is banned from my file cabinet in my office. His idea is grab the file and return it just anywhere in any drawer-an A file going into the M drawer? Perfect according to him-but he feels no need to go find that misfiled file.