Hi. the door looks detailed - are you pleased with the quality of the woodwork?

It's not to my eye the worst of golden so I wonder if with the right pieces it'd be ok.

The mocha sort of paint is good and about what I had once. Seems neutral.

Painting it would be the cheapest, although I might spring for new cabinets in the kitchen just to get a really fresh start there.

the door panels arent arched, paint might do the trick.

Oh my gosh! Paint it all! Invest in good quality primer and paint, it'll be worth it.

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Definitely paint it! They look of good quality. Paint will really freshen the look.

Before you paint everything white, I'd start with the doors/ trim and window trim and paint that white. I'm hoping the furniture in the pictures is not yours, and you have not-oak furniture. That too will help tone down the oak. Add a couple of colorful area rugs and see what that does for you. Changing the hardware to something more modern and bolder black will help modernize the space. You can always paint/stain the cabinets at a later date.

you have the option to paint the kitchen a lighter color if you choose so. I would stain the family room oak into a darker color. You have the option to use cushions/pillows/rugs to add color to the room and to take the eye away from all the oak!

like your kitchen, I would paint trims and doors. kitchen works as it is