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Need help with terrible neighbor

10 years ago

So my family and I have been living in the same house for about 20 years now. We never have issues, keep the yard and house in good shape, and have three daughters who have grown up in this house and neighborhood without any issues.
Before I continue with the current issue with my neighbor, I first have to go through the history of the guy. He has lived here for about 10 years and continuously has troubles with the law. He has been arrested a few times for domestic assault of his wife twice, and then his girlfriend after his divorce. In one of these cases, his wife ran to the neighbor across the street asking for help. Neighbor let the woman in and the guy, who was drunk, proceeded to break a window in order to get his girlfriend out and assaulted the nice man who was trying to do the right thing. Sadly, this nice neighbor was too nice and/or afraid to press charges to the man did not get in as much trouble as he should have.
As you can guess, we have no contact with this terrible neighbor. We do not want our daughters anywhere near him or the rest of his family, who also cause issue, have been arrested, or terrorize the neighborhood. His children, with the guidance of him, play soccer and football in front of our house and throw/kick balls near are cars on purpose. This neighbor isn't directly across from us, but he's catercorner. When we try to talk to him about his kids and if he could please have them play somewhere else and not near our cars, he says no they don't do that and we can't do anything about it. We have also found dents, scratches, marks, and anything else you can imagine on our cars, but there's no way we can prove it was them, but they miraculously appear overnight. So, in order for us to protect our cars, we have put up three cameras in our front yard with the help of a surveillance company.
Of course, this angered the neighbor even more. The reason for that is because he sells cars our of his front house. We do not know if he even has a license to do that, and I know for a fact that its illegal to do so without one. But if he had one, would he have been so upset for the cameras? He also has about 6 cars in his front-yard-lot, which he likes to park in front of our house, on our lawn, and one time even ran over a sprinkler head. We, again, tried to approach him and ask for him to not park there, and he said he will park wherever he wants because its local parking. We understand that, but at the same time he can park these cars anywhere else on our street, he simply does it to our house because he knows it annoys us. We have called the cops a handful of times because he would park in front of our driveway, making it difficult to get our two cars in there. Cops do nothing, just ask him to move it, which he does after arguing. We have even gone to the neighborhood board asking if it is legal in the bylaws to sell cars in your front yard (interesting note, our neighborhood is not allowed to have yard sales, so isn't selling cars the same thing?) and they say they can't do anything about it.
All of this may not sound like a big deal, but this man is obviously dangerous. He and his new girlfriend have even exhibited their bad temper in front of our 12 year old daughter. One time, the girlfriend even flipped off our daughter and her friend.
So, long story short, I only have one questions. 1. Is there a way that we can find out/ask/inquire/get someone else to see if this man has a license to sell cars? (If he doesn't we will go to the police and inform them, since we have several hours of footage of him selling). Honestly our only issue is that their cars are so close to our house and we don't want him anywhere close. And if anyone has any comments or ways to make this situation any better, that would also me much appreciated.

Comments (13)

  • 10 years ago

    Sounds like problem my friend had with parking on her lawn. Had trucks & left ruts & she was really upset. It was weekend home by Colo River . So I suggested if it was allowed to get some large boulders, heavy enough so 1 person has trouble lifting them. And place out towards edge of yard in decorative manner with few small shrubs to soften the look, should neighbors say anything you say, it just looked so plain & blah out there, wanted to dress it up a bit. (Don't bring them into it at all) When she presented that idea to neighbors they said, oh, it does look nice. Didn't even realize it was done because they were problem neighbors.(problem neighbors are often so full of themselves they hardly realize anybody else exists-never confront them, who knows when they are going to go completely off & do something terrible.) so stay out of their line of fire. Have your kids go a different way so they don't go by their house. Your kids may have to go in you back door or through you back yard to avoid them. If boulders are not allowed could you put in bougainvillea or holly bushes or evergreen trees, something kind of thorny or that will be difficult to retrieve their balls & stuff from. Might want to do some creative planting up in the yard to block their view of your place or put in a hedge or wall if allowed to keep your family safe. People that have lots of run-ins with the law are ones you finally read about in the newspaper or see on TV & neighbors all knew it was coming or will say, we didn't think it would get that bad. That is because most of us try to see the good in people, especially neighbors. If drugs/drinking are involved it can get bad fast. Good Luck!

  • 10 years ago

    Sorry, that's your back door or your back yard, should have reread what I wrote!

  • 10 years ago

    Selling cars: The Texas Department of Motor Vehicles can give you the rules and regulations regarding vehicle sales. Often a private individual can sell no more than X vehicles per year before they're required to have a dealer's license. The regulations for obtaining a dealers license can vary widely from state to state. Some states require a physical place of business that's open to the public, others only require a business address, which could be small rented office. Some unscrupulous dealers will buy cars at auction (or from other sources) and then resell them representing themselves as the owner of the car (or acting for their little old aunt) rather than a dealer. It's called "curbstoning" and generally illegal.

    You can also check with your local municipality regarding laws governing running a home based business. Laws there can vary widely. Do these cars have license plates? In many places only registered, licensed vehicles can be parked on city streets.

    If you have a homeowners association or there restrictions in the property deed, that can be another avenue to explore. The only thing a homeowners association can tell him to do is stop, but they can fine him which could lead to a lien on the property.

    You may want to talk with your local police department. If it's smaller department, maybe the chief or if it's larger, the community policing office. Politely and dispassionately (stick with facts rather than emotions) explain your concerns and ask if they have any suggestions and what events should trigger a call to them. If this guy has an alcohol or drug problem, there's the obvious concern that he may drink and drive. I might suggest that you feel the need to call the police and if you can tell, do it at a time he has been drinking or appears intoxicated. Maybe he'll do something stupid, like taking a swing at a cop.

    Sorry to hear about your troubles, good luck!

  • 10 years ago

    Move as fast as u can. You aré likely right about everything but what good is that if he may/will retaliate. Nothing that you say suggests he is into doing the right thing and you can't change his disturbed ways but you CAN change your address,.

  • 10 years ago

    Personally, I would contact an attorney and ask for a consultation about this. Moving isn't the answer because he has already lowered the value of your home.

    You must find out what legal recourse you have.

  • 10 years ago

    We have neighbors from hell also, and we refused to move also, out of the principle of it. After 23 yrs, I have to say MOVE NOW!!!. It is not worth staying. People like this never act decently, like normal human beings. There is no law, etc, that will affect them so that they do the rite thing. If you pursue things, and find some law, etc to make them change, it will only get worse. It isn't worth it for you to experience the anger, stress, etc everyday that they inflict upon you and your family, to stay in that house, neighborhood, etc. Even if you have to take a small loss on your property, go now and find some peace and enjoyment in your life, in a home with decent neighbors. The loss of value is probably small over the long run. Good luck!

  • 10 years ago
    last modified: 10 years ago

    Your post and situation are so upsetting. I truly love our home. The idea of leaving the place I raised my family in and creating all the special memories that come with that would be hard to imagine but I have to agree with those who suggest moving.

    This guy obviously knows how to push the laws to the limit and still avoid a jail cell. People like that are the most dangerous to deal with because they have no moral compass and you never know how far they'll go or what else can happen. Forget about the cars, the fact that they are also involving your children is alarming and would be the deal breaker for me. It was just a hand jester this time, what will it be next time you piss them off and they see one of your kids walking down the street? Or even a pet left unattended in the yard?

    As hard as it would be to do, I'd take the high road and move on, value wise, he's already bringing the neighborhood down to a different level, maybe it's better to leave now than later.

  • 10 years ago

    You said it very well lukkiirish!

  • 5 years ago

    Damn, I have some crazy neighbors too, also with anger issues which involve swearing, yelling and throwing things at our young children and puppy.


    One thing I have learned is the police and justice system in my area have not protected us. We tried to go to court for an anti-harassment protection order, we had photos of property damage, illegal cameras monitoring us especially in areas of our property we have an expectation to privacy, bruises they'd given me by throwing stuff at the kids and me while in our yard etc. We got nothing, they submitted no evidence but a statement which was full of lies and holes (even harassed us within it, accusing is of being drug users with no reasons or facts to back it up and stated we have never harassed her, she's never felt threatened by us--oh but she told the police and our landlord we were! We've always ignored these people too, tried to do our best to appease them and follow their ridiculous request (minis taking down a tire swing that was there when we moved in and is legal to be there and use) we have no legal reason to follow. They break the law too, expired tabs and no permits for their yard, fence and housework. And we ignored it with loud noises all spring and summer, all times of day and night. They even cause pot holes in the road and left large rocks, the size of a child's head, on the sidewalk and street from fixing a retaining wall up front. They shovel snow onto our clean sidewalks and vehicles. You just can't reason with crazy! I'd avoid any communication with this guy.


    Anyways, what I've learned from them is absolutely follow through with legal actions, don't be intimidated and bullied by them. Try to have your neighbors help you document what they are doing!


    Most important, document as much as possible, the cameras sound like a huge help! Even recording any interactions you have with him (use in the court varies by state but should you need a no contact/protection order you should be able to submit it for that as it's not used for criminal charges).


    What helps with the documenting are police records. When it's bad don't be afraid to use the police just so something is filed, it'll help you create an official documented history of their illegal activities (I think parking on your yard and walking on it to damage your vehicles counts as trespassing! Nothing to be done it is on public property unless the cars are left unmoved for so long/expired tabs/not road worthy.


    I'd move forward with looking into his 'business', reaching out to your cities non emergency hotline or police, they won't give legal advice but can send you to the right department/resources so someone can come investigate your concerns/accusations. They can also help you find out where to file for anti-harassment/no contact orders, and if they're yelling at you and trespassing I'm sure you'll get one with enough evidence and a long enough documented history.


    Good luck and nail that annoying pest!

  • 5 years ago

    Jay I wonder what has happened...5 yr old post

  • 5 years ago
    last modified: 5 years ago

    Habitual bullies act like they do because they have long ago decided that being aggressive works for them. And they don't stop until something is done that produces a strong enough impression on them to make them reevaluate this decision.

  • 5 years ago

    Similar to posting five years into a thread and contributing no added value.