It looks lovely from outside. Maybe you are not sad about the new house but I think maybe missing your "Home". The place you made memories? I'm sorry. I can't really know how you are feeling. I live in a tiny house and yours seems like a dream. Maybe you just need some getting use to. I hope you get to enjoy your house and make great memories. Let the old house go!! A new chapter!!

FWP, right?! You're so exhausted. Moving consists of somewhere around 1700 activities... 1700 opportunities for something to fail, all within the span of 48 hours, or in your case 72 hours. (I made up the 1700 number, but you get the point.) If 10% of those things don't go quite right because we haven't managed to nail down every precise detail, it's okay! You can look back later and have a great misery story to tell your friends. You and your husband put in a lot of thought before committing money to this purchase, so you must have been in a rational state of mind about this house/neighborhood at some point. I hope once you get settled -- fingers crossed -- you can begin to appreciate the nice things about your new home. Congratulations.

I feel your pain, We downsized and went from a huge kitchen with 55 cabinets to a very small kitchen with only 21 cabinets. Yes I was feeling just like you. I love to cook so it made it even harder. The house in all other aspects is perfect. I had to sacrifice having a large kitchen. It has been a year and the only way I could feel better about it was to make it my own. I put in new quartz, painted the cabinets, picked out what my neighbor calls jewelry for the hardware and painted it a lovely shade of green. I love my kitchen. Maybe you can add something that feels special to you. Mine needed some updating and yours may not. Linda

I've moved a great many times in my life through work, often to accommodation which wasn't exactly up to scratch. We managed to make each of those places a home, simply by putting up our artwork, laying down our oriental carpets, and organizing the bookshelves. I'm sure once you get a few nights sleep and have a chance to make the house truly "yours" all the stress associated with the move will become a memory.

You're in a nice, new house in a great area and that's the important thing. The size of bedrooms doesn't matter all that much - our current master is half the size of the previous one (I couldn't even fit our dresser into it!) but so long as there's room for the bed, a couple of nightstands, and some of the aforementioned art, all is good. I'm sure your daughter will agree.

And big kitchens aren't necessarily better kitchens. (In our own move from hades, we spent three weeks in a tent cooking on a camp stove and a portable bbq, and a further three weeks in an ancient trailer, with another two burner stove and no bbq (and a shower improvised over the wheel well of the trailer!). Surprising what you can whip up in a tiny space with virtually no modern conveniences. So, anything with more than two burners, a half-sized fridge and a bar sink looks really good to me these days!) The reality is that a smaller kitchen can be highly functional, often more so than a bigger space with a more spread out work triangle. You will probably need to be more organized than in a bigger kitchen that has more storage, but that's a small price to pay for getting your daughter the education she needs.

So, best advice, relax, and get that art up on the walls.

My! How wonderful your family has a home you can feel safe and comfortable in! But, yes, I get it that it's hard to "downsize". For years I was disappointed I didn't buy the big house I really wanted. Funny thing is...my husband and I "unknowingly" purchased our "forever" home by downsizing before it was necessary. Single level, smaller footprint, safe neighborhood, etc. Plus, if you get a 15 year loan for your "forever, retirement" home you'll feel so smart and financially comfortable later. The size of a home really, truly doesn't mean happiness. It's the love inside. :)

Now, on the "flipside" of your feeling a bit disappointed in your smaller home, I propose going all out in design and comfort! Built in pool?? Hardwood floors? Quartz counter? Upscale stainless appliances? Hire a designer for optimum results to make you happy, happy!

You're pooped! Your new house sounds fantastic in so many ways. You'll end up loving it although-you may always miss your old kitchen. We downsized two years ago and I love it-but I miss the three car garage!!

Building and moving into a new home is always very stressful and there are always glitches/problems that have to be overcome. Your home looks lovely and from what i am reading, the only negative is the small kitchen. Had a similar problem when we moved into our current home - less cabinets and no pantry. I found that by eliminating things I don't use or have multiples of, helped with the problem. Also, I don't "stock up" on loads of items that need cupboard space. All good wishes for you and your family.

When we moved into a house that wasn't exactly how I envisioned it when we began the renovations I had a hard time letting go of my vision (which was perfect, by the way lol).

I found that finding something new to appreciate about the house every day or so and expressing that aloud to my husband who did most of the reno work really helped me to feel it. It didn't take long until I could honestly say "I love our pretty new home!"

Hosting some holidays and family events helped too :)

I'm so glad you're feeling more optimistic this morning. What a great thread this is!

Do I smell.......romance? Couldn't hurt lol

How far in the process of unpacking and setting it up as your home are you? The couple times I've moved it hasn't felt like my place for months. Not until I got fully unpacked and added some color and décor did it ever begin to feel like my home. Could that be contributing to your feelings?

Perhaps you should talk to a therapist.

You're feeling sentimental about all the memories your old house holds. Your emotional state has nothing to do with the new house. Every couple of years, I drive my family to see our old house. We park across the street and talk about how the house has changed and the memories we have (both my children were born when we lived there). Although I love our new home (it is far better), I cry every time despite the 21 years that have passed. Once your daughter starts school and you are fully moved in, everything will be fine. But next summer, take a little drive to the old house.

I have found nothing a sunset and some wine couldn't cure for at least a FEW hours. Get out there.....! Change the old habits to new ones in grief of any kind. .... there's little valor in suffering when moving forward can ease the suffering. To the deck you go : )!

Nice home. Mountain views are the best.

Remember that even homes in more secure neighborhoods should have good door locks, including at least a latch on screen porch doors and, perhaps, a small wind chime placed where it will let you know someone has opened that door.

Moving to a smaller home or home with smaller rooms is a good excuse to donate items rarely, if ever, used to Habitat for Humanity or a neighborhood charity or charity sponsored thrift store -- getting that feeling good for doing good mood lift.

In smaller rooms, avoid clutter to help make them feel larger.

For storage in small rooms, think vertical -- choose more storage with less of a floor/footprint.

Shelving, with or without doors, near the ceiling can be perfect for storing those seldom used things associated with great memories you want to keep.

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When we downsized, I deliberately chose a smaller kitchen, because they're SO much easier to work in. My previous kitchen was large and rambling, and I bet I walked miles fixing a Thanksgiving dinner. Also, as any military family will tell you, the first months in a new home are a challenge. It's just not 'home' yet. This, too, shall pass!

In time you will learn to love your house! We relocated 4 states away from all family and friends for my work and it also coincided with us becoming empty nesters. New area has four seasons, hills, 2 story homes vs. hot, muggy year round and single story homes I had lived in all my life. We were excited but I wanted something different and was so excited to buy our house! HOWEVER! As soon as we moved it I had a complete meltdown. It was our 3rd house but it WAS so very different from what I had ever known. Tri-level contemporary rather than normal traditional. I had always been confident and capable with decorating; friends/family called me Martha & asked my advice. I was overwhelmed with all the changes and simply shut down. My husband joked if we were ever going to unpack all the boxes? (we finally did but it took about 6 months). For many months I compared the new house to the old house -which in my mind's eye was beautiful (it was!) and perfect (it wasn't). I thought the new house was awful and I simply did not have the desire or energy to redo another house let alone this one. I stressed making such a huge mistake but when we saw it-it felt like home to me so I was really confused. I came to realize I had to give myself time to "grieve" for the old before I could embrace the new. We would go to local open houses and entertained moving but I preferred our house over anything else we'd see. Yes it is 1/2 the size of our former home - but we do not need a large house. This is a perfect for us -and the location is wonderful-we back up to a creek and wildlife preserve. We have a large wooded private lot and feel like we are vacation. Over time I came to see (again) all the great qualities our home has and when I finally got serious about decorating, there was no looking back! Yes it is different and yes there are some things we have changed and some things I realized I can live with and work around. At the end of the day I love my home - because it is the one I share with the most important person and people in the world to me! Give yourself some time and baby steps-focus on all the positives. Best to you and your family!

It will just take some time. Even today you woke up feeling a little better. After the stress of moving (and all that encompasses) by days end there can be a buildup of lots of negative thoughts and feelings. Once we have time to rest and start a new day fresh, these things will not seem so huge. Some people don't do well with change (even good changes), and their adjustment period is a little more difficult and lengthy. But, given time (as well as not allowing yourself to dwell and park on the negative), you will learn to enjoy your new place with its beautiful mountains and sunsets (what a blessing!). I'm sure your old house had some things that weren't exactly perfect that you would have liked to change, but it was "home" to you and you were familiar with them. I think it's a lot harder to accept the negative things in a brand new environment, as opposed to negatives in an environment we feel comfortable and at home in. Remember to "take those thoughts captive" (those negative ones)....you'll adjust in time :)

You moved to put your daughter in a better school district. Good for you. Stay there until she graduates and then move again. That is pretty much the focus at your stage of life. Educate the children as best you can. Once they are gone, you have done your job.

We moved to Harvard Square when the girls left for college. It was so fabulous! One of the best times in our lives.

Mover's remorse, not necessarily buyers. Give yourself a beat to sleep (drink?) and adjust.

I'd love to hear how things have gone since last July. Are you feeling more settled and happy? For those of us for whom home is the heart of our lives, being content with where you live is everything. I hope you are loving your home now.

I've never seen a big kitchen in a French home where the food is to die for. I bet you're feeling better by now.