We are having our oak and kitchen cabinets painted tomorrow and still can't decide on the color. We know we want white but not sure if they need to match. We are deciding between pure white and snowbound by BM. Is pure white a stark white? We were told not o use a stark white. Our windows have white aluminum frames so we can't choose the color. We don't want the trim to look yellow against the window frames but will the pure white be too bright in our kitchen? Also our painter said the grab on the cabinets will show. How will that look? Should we do a glaze? He keeps telling us we should buy we don't like an antique look and would a glaze do that? Please help!!