My pics -work in progress:

The wall color is Valspar Savory Beige. Sometimes Valspar changes the names of their paints, so if you cannot find the name, look for the number. Valspar is available at Lowes and Ace hardware.

I am afraid my cabinets are 20 years old, so I am not up on who makes good cabinets. From the forum, I have heard good things about Omega Dynasty and if you live near an Amish community, I have heard of people getting very good work from Amish and Mennonite cabinet makers at a very good price. My pie-safe and island are Amish made.

My own cabinets were purchased many years ago from Menards and they are made by Medallion. I don't know if Medallion is still a good company or not. The cabinet frames and doors are solid wood, which is good in a stained cabinet.

I have seen in many newer design pics a return to warm wood tones and the use of rift sawn white oak. The rift sawn has less apparent grain and the white oak does not have the red undertones that red oak can have. I saw the white oak used in a recent Parade home and it was very pretty. Often it is combined with white painted cabinets. Here is a picture from a 2017 show home:

If you go with white painted cabinets, you could do an oak island to tie in with the oak in the rest of the home.

Here is an entire kitchen done in the white oak:

I think this is white oak too:

In my area - the midwest, natural oak cabinets, including red oak, are still somewhat popular. When people feel like there is "too much wood" sometimes it is because they have a lot of cabinets and are surrounded by wood. I like the third pic I posted because it has less upper cabinets which decreases that too much wood feel. I have an L shaped kitchen, so wood only on two walls which keeps the kitchen from feeling dominated by wood.

Painted cabinets are often made from MDF (Medium Density Fiberboard) or MDF with wood panels in the doors. This is because wood moves with changed in temp and humidity causing hairline cracks in the paint at the joints. MDF is more stable, helping to reduce these hairline cracks.

You can do white cabinets and keep the oak trim:

I painted my trim - it was never oak, but dark stained pine.

Another good look with wood is a craftsman style. If I ever did new doors, this would be the look I would consider:

Again the decrease in upper cabinets helps keep the wood from feeling "too much" and the glass doors are also helpful in the same way.