My comments on the bathrooms: two have painted wood work and one has stained. Paint the stained white. Vanities and countertops keep; get rid of the mirrors and vanity lights…awful, awful. The two bathrooms with the white countertops, paint the walls white and choose new shower curtains. (You need new window treatments, but you need to post pictures of the windows without whatever you are using now for privacy). The bathroom with the off white counter, paint it that off white.

I know it doesn’t sound exciting, but two of the three bathrooms have countertop edge on the wall, You can minimize look that by painting the walls the same color.

As for the family room, those “built-ins” are kitchen cabinets and the counter isn’t worth saving. Remove and replace with two matching chests. The mantel…if it is actually attached to the “stone” , then paint it black. If it is simply applied then remove it.

The fireplace built ins I wouldn't paint white; too stark a contrast. Instead , pull a light color from the stone and make them recede so the fireplace is the focal point. Ok to leave mantel wood.

The photos you have posted does not give a clue to your style (which is so important). If you actually share other areas of your home in photos, the suggestions will be more appealing to you as they will be geared to the overall look you are seeking.

Thanks everyone! The hard part is I thought I had a "style" and now moving into this previously lived in home has kind of change my style--and I have no clue why!!! It's frustrating, which is why I need help!!

Doug-would you suggest a light gray or something then?

Yes, pull a color from the stone

Judy's advice is spot on.