Gray Owl by BM is neutral and would look good with the color palette you are choosing. Changing out the pendant would update the space as well.

Ok awesome! I'm just worried because a lot of other rooms in our house are just gray and white without color, so they look a little washed out

Depends on the lighting and other furnishing.

that is very pretty! perhaps you could suggest a greige or beige color to coordinate with that? Thank you so much ps what color is that?