Try SW alabaster

Test out Benjamin Moore Simply White. It’s warmer than Chantilly Lace.

Thanks! Swiss coffee and similar are too close to the cabinet color so these hopefully work!

BM Chantilly Lace is one of the brighter whites (LRV 91%), so that wasn't the best place to start!

SW Snowbound (LRV 83%) is more off-white, but still bright.

SW Pure White (LRV 84%)

BM Barely There (LRV 77.51%)

BM Soft Chamois (LRV 77.4%)

Really hard to narrow it down without knowing exactly what your greige paint is, as all these off-whites have different undertones some of which might not work with that particular greige.

These are our cabinets - ikea stensund

https://www.ikea.com/us/en/rooms/kitchen/stensund-kitchen-series-pubd75a55d0

Yeah it was a recomendation from someone and a bad one LOL

From what I can find the most similar color to the cabinets is SW Neutral Ground

It's important to see how the paint you don't like compares to other colors. See charts below.