Take a photo before you call a marriage counselor. Post it. Here.

how about something completely different?

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Photos?

Heavens, to Betsy! Baroness! Sure time you stopped him before he hurts himself! lol It is too late in the marriage or this housing effort to change what is. Is there space somewhere else in the house that you can call your own and get what you want, perhaps your own "girl cave"! Or could you change up the dining room and make it more "multi-purpose" room and give it new life and new personality?

looks like i am way too late to the party, so i will just add my 2 cents and leave. if it were me, i would want a spot by a large window with a good size set of bookshelves that would turned so i would not always be looking at the kitchen and anything else i do not wish to see. and I would like a lounger that is all down like this

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Well, I dunno. There are far worse things in life to have to deal with than a big TV and a grey leather sofa. Unhappy husbands, for example...

Why don't you post a picture of your current home, and of the offending sofa, and maybe someone can work out how to keep everyone happy? It will probably require some compromise, of course, but surely you can make a grey leather sofa work with an oriental rug, for starters? I have lots of oriental rugs myself, and they have gone with almost any style of furniture I've had over the years, from fairly traditional to, now, my modern leather sofas and Scandi credenzas and tables. The Queen Anne furniture will be more of a challenge but it sounds as though it won't be all that well suited to the new house, never mind the sofa...

Anyway, photos please.

Flo and Having Fun, the new house doesn't have room for a 'girl cave, but I do plan to use our 3 tall bookcases in the no-name room between the family room and kitchen, with 2 pretty chairs (of my choosing) for a girly conversation area. Jmm, you make me feel better with the way your Orientals have transitioned through the years. I don't have a photo of the gray leather sofa, but I'm trying to attach a photo of my current living room.

More photos of current house, but, as Jmm said, the Queen Anne dining room furniture already is a no-go for the new house, which is farmhouse-casual.

Probably not, since some are family antiques already restored and refinished. But I'll keep it in mind for lesser pieces. And the dining room and table already will be replaced by the Tuscan pedestal table we bought. Thanks, though!

I notice the large t v in your living room. Is that staying?

Buy a new rug for the gray sofa, in gray and color you like.

When you say "Tuscan" what do you mean? Tuscan tables are usually more ornate? Any photos? I can't quite feature a Tuscan table with the Queen Anne chairs and other pieces?

No, it all was done with my knowledge and agreement. He said he felt like a visitor in our current US home, since I did most of the buying and decorating and he was in the States so seldom. I wanted him to have pieces he liked in our new house, to make it "our" house, a place he feels comfortable living full-time. In fact, I shopped half a dozen stores before showing him a leather sofa I thought he would like -- but in a color I could live with (as opposed to BROWN). My quandary now is how to bring my own tastes to bear with the rest of the room's furnishings.

Judy g, I like that idea of buying a rug with gray but also with colors I'd like to use, including cream and teal. And I had to laugh about the TV. The one he bought for the new house is about 3 times that big, taking up the entire allotted space in the built-in media cabinet for a TV. So that GIANT TV will unfortunately be the focal point of the room, since we'll have no fireplace.

Flo, I can see your confusion. The Queen Anne chairs won't be going with the new Tuscan table. Maybe I'm describing it wrong: It's a long, narrowish table with distressed finish. Reminds me of something King Henry VIII would have gnawed chicken legs on. We bought chairs similar in style.

Judy G, where did you find the rug you pictured. I like it a lot!

http://www.rugs-direct.com/Details/Kaleen-Helena-3212/118130/189494

you like more traditional. i found these the other day, would some perk you up?

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This post makes me giggle. My husband would say that a 65" TV is tiny and only suitable for a bedroom. So, I guess count your blessings that the TV is only 65". (This is not intended as a criticism of my husband. I have come to sort of like large TVs.)

LWfromny, I'm very sorry that you lost the love of your life. I've had cancer twice, my husband with me through every surgery, every chemo treatment, so I cherish every day of health, every day of life with him. I want him to feel comfortable at home and love being in one country, one house after all these years. But, to get this thread off our maudlin meanderings, I'm still selfish enough to want a home where we don't throw chicken bones on the floor, where my girlfriends come over and say "Wow."

And Smit, you mean they actually MAKE a TV larger than 65 inches? For the new house, my husband also bought a 45 incher for the screened porch, a 20-something for wall mounting in the kitchen, and we're moving our "small" 42-incher into the new guest room. At least he and I agree on no TV's for the bedroom! (And no eating in bed!)

You all have been helpful, and supportive. Many thanks.

Baroness,

The smallest tv in our house is a 55" in our daughter's bedroom. Our formal living area has a 73" tv; our family room has an 80" tv. There is a 120" projection screen on our patio. He is currently scheming to get a 90" tv since that 73" TV is so tiny. (His words, not mine.). He kills me, but I am pretty glad to have him.

Lwfromny, I am sorry for your loss.

Smit2380, I had no idea!!!! My husband now wants to compare notes with your husband. He said he felt his "male parts" shrinking! Well, you made my day. If you can put up with all that, I guess I can live with a 55-inch TV in my living room. And yes, these husbands can be annoying, but life would be pretty dull and lonely without them. Lwfromny put things in perspective for us.